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- Thread starter MN John
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Those are lovely rings!
I think if I was doing what you were doing, I'd be engaged right now. But then again, I might not understand what the difference is between "prep for engagement" and "prep for marriage"
isn't it all the same thing?
I think if I was doing what you were doing, I'd be engaged right now. But then again, I might not understand what the difference is between "prep for engagement" and "prep for marriage"
isn't it all the same thing?
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the rings are a cool idea. but i've never heard of "pre-engagement." why not just get engaged?
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bumblebee62331
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ChildOfGod20 said:
My sister and her boyfriend (of about 4 months) have got promise rings. That means that basically they are promised to each other, promising each other that they will get engaged. Then they will be promised to get married.
I don't personally think I would ever get promised to get engaged. I agree with Blue Impulse. To me, promised to get engaged is simply a long-term relationship. It seems the next logical step.
However those rings look lovely. It's a bit hard to make them out, but if that's what you want to do, then that's great. I want to be engaged for a year at least. I want to take things slow and enjoy them!
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I can personally see his point. They are in some ways preparing to work out whether marriage is a good idea for them, and the ins and outs of it.
I can see another point, that engagement brings you even closer, and "pressures" can be eaiser to succumb to.
I can see another point, that engagement brings you even closer, and "pressures" can be eaiser to succumb to.
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JesusWasn'tWhite
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I like the idea of an intentional period of time to prepare for marriage, and then a short engagement. I feel that dating is preparation for marriage, mostly, and engagement is preparation for the wedding, for the most part. I'm not sure where "pre-marital" counseling would go in there, but I don't need to figure that out for myself quite yet.
I read your posts a lot, and think that I really like what you're doing. Whereas it may not be the route for me, I really respect the way you're going about this whole dating, engagement, and marriage thing.
I read your posts a lot, and think that I really like what you're doing. Whereas it may not be the route for me, I really respect the way you're going about this whole dating, engagement, and marriage thing.
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heartnsoul
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Congratulations! 
May both of you continue working on the relationship with each other and with God. With God at the center, the foundation will be solid enough to weather the storms in life to help prepare you for greater commitments in the future. God bless you both. 
May both of you continue working on the relationship with each other and with God. With God at the center, the foundation will be solid enough to weather the storms in life to help prepare you for greater commitments in the future. God bless you both.
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Hmm... cool idea. As you said, the most important thing is that you two understand what you mean by it- let everybody else think what they will.
I have some friends who are doing promise rings until they're ready to get engaged.. they're in their late teens now, and it's kind of like saying "I'm not available" to anybody wanting to flirt or whatever. Kind of like a trust thing- a commitment without a date. I think it's sweet.
Congratulations- the rings are beautiful by the way!!!!!
I have some friends who are doing promise rings until they're ready to get engaged.. they're in their late teens now, and it's kind of like saying "I'm not available" to anybody wanting to flirt or whatever. Kind of like a trust thing- a commitment without a date. I think it's sweet.
Congratulations- the rings are beautiful by the way!!!!!
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JAKG, I want to know why this process takes so long? I mean, premarital counseling only takes a couple months.... or are there some kind of deep issues that need to be resolved?? Are there children involved, for instance, or exes or something??
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