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Hey there. My name is Marisol, 15. About 2 years ago I used to be abused by my best friend...or boyfriends rather. At first, i kept denying it...he never seemed like one to do that sort of thing...but he kept on it for a few months. He stopped eventullay and things went back to normal...then he died. I've delt with his death, but what he used to do still haunts me. I still haven't told anyone except my new boyfriend and my phsyciatrist. Now he's just like my old one in the since that he's a christian and rarely gets angry. But, so often, not just with him, but with any guy really, i often flinch when they touch my face or cower in fear when they hit me playfully...i've talked to my doctor about it..he says i haven't quite faced my fears...i don't understand. I'm just a little confused right now and more than anything i want to be able to trust my loved ones and not give them anything to worry about.

Any suggestions?
 
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The doctor is right, but at the same time, it does take time to rebuild the trust that was taken from you. I don't have any suggestions, except that you do follow your doctor's advice.

And, you aren't a burden to anyone, or you shouldn't be. From what I understand about this situation, flinching at things like this is a normal reaction. You have your guard up so that you won't get hurt again.

You aren't a burden to us here, so if you need to talk or fellowship with us, please do feel free to do so. I promise we won't "play fight" with you. :hug:
 
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Hun, that is a normal reaction after something like that but in time it will get easier. You doctor is right, there is probably still fear there but sis, that isn't such a bad thing or abnormal.

I am sure that they will understand if you can't let them get close. Personally, it has taken me 4 years to be able to let people get close to me and touch my face/hug me tight. In time it will get easier and you will be able to trust again. Just take it slow *hug*

If you ever want to talk please don't hesitate to PM me as well. I am happy to listen.
 
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