reputation Points....

[Rainbow.]

How do you spread yours??

I spread mine by giving them to people, who's posts i find interesting, helpful, funny, etc. Why do you give yours? For instance, do you give points for every post you read, or just because someone gave you one, or maybe someone asked, or because they are the same religion as you? Do tell! lol
I'll give rep to people regardless or their religion or non-religion. Even if they disagree with me, or have negative things to say about my posts. As long as they are polite about it, and have a valid point to make.
Well, bye for now, i'll look forward in reading your replies....if there are any!

 

[Bevlina]

I give mine to those who give aid in some way Rainbow. And, if I find the posts are really interesting. I think the rep points is a wonderful idea don't you?

 

[Rainbow.]

Yes, i do think it's a very sweet idea. However, sometimes people ask to be given them and i think this defeats the purpose at bit. If i asked 2,000 people to give me rep points, in return for points i give them, that doesn't make me have a good reputation. lol
I wonder if people that have a vast amount of rep points have a great reputation in the outside world. lol In fact, i may do a survey on myself and see if i can match or beat the rep point i have in here!! He he he. Erm, maybe not i may only get like half of what ive got! Oh igonrance can be bliss (in a situation such as this anyways!)

 

[Tangnefedd]

I must admit reputation points are not something I can be bothered with. I am not worried if I get any or not!

 

[* kittie *]

I give them to people because I like what they wrote. Doesn't have to be inspiring, but if it appeals to me, or if they're feeling down, I'll give them points. eh...I guess I don't know what to say to them...that's why I don't write or PM much.
But anyways, or I'll give them when I think of it...when I feel like it.

 

[Rainbow.]

Yeah i agree. But for those that it does matter to, shows an insecure side i feel, and that makes me sad for them

 

[Lyle]

Rainbow does it in the way the system was originally made to work.....

 

[SirKenin]

I give them to really exceptional posts (and my friends in the rep thread). I like having a high rep. When I give a rep to someone for a post, I'm choosy about it, and it really counts for something when they are repped and their points jump by 20 or whatever it is.

 

[Musician]

Yeah i agree. But for those that it does matter to, shows an insecure side i feel, and that makes me sad for them

Sadly, many people ARE insecure, through no fault of their own and there is little they can do about it.

Sometimes when people say other people are insecure, they say it like it's some kind of undesirable personality flaw, like selfishness or greed - it's not like that at all.

Insecurity is not innate, it is something which is brought about by the way others treat you and it very very difficult to get rid of. It's more than just someone turning round and saying "Hey, you just gotta think positive!" - it doesn't work like that.

Take me, at primary school I was normal, happy confident, bright with friends that I cared about. Not insecure at all!

I went to secondary school and was consistently bullied almost from day one. Why? Who knows.

Maybe because I was the slightly chubby, red-haired one who wore glasses and was never very good at sports. But I was bullied and told I was ugly, fat worthless and useless every day for nigh on 5 years. I was beaten up in the changing rooms and on the way home from school. I was tripped up on cross country runs and taunted in the yard.

And that never goes away.

I tried fighting back but they just came back with their mates and did it harder. I tried telling teachers and they got a mild slap on the wrists and then came back with more of their mates and did it harder. So in the end, I gave up, built up a shell around myself, got a reputation for being bad-tempered and unapproachable and didn't have any friends any more.

I am now 31 years old. I run my own business, I am in a steady relationship with a beautiful daughter, a loving family and I have lots of friends. I have such a lot to give thanks for and I do!!

And yet, scratch the surface and that frightened little insecure kid is still there inside me. It's hard and I have tried to deal with it the best way I can but I don't think it is ever going to go away entirely, I just have to remind myself of the good things in life, whenever it does come out.

• Yes, it makes me feel good to think that other people have a good opinion of me.
• Yes, I like to have my opinions validated and affirmed by others.
• Yes, I freely admit that is my insecure side coming out.

Maybe that makes me worthy of pity, I don't know. But implying it is an undesirable trait and one to be got rid of or pitied has the opposite effect of making the insecurity stronger.

There are better ways of dealing with it.

 

[Rainbow.]

Sadly, many people ARE insecure, through no fault of their own and there is little they can do about it.

Sometimes when people say other people are insecure, they say it like it's some kind of undesirable personality flaw, like selfishness or greed - it's not like that at all.

Insecurity is not innate, it is something which is brought about by the way others treat you and it very very difficult to get rid of. It's more than just someone turning round and saying "Hey, you just gotta think positive!" - it doesn't work like that.

Take me, at primary school I was normal, happy confident, bright with friends that I cared about. Not insecure at all!

I went to secondary school and was consistently bullied almost from day one. Why? Who knows.

Maybe because I was the slightly chubby, red-haired one who wore glasses and was never very good at sports. But I was bullied and told I was ugly, fat worthless and useless every day for nigh on 5 years. I was beaten up in the changing rooms and on the way home from school. I was tripped up on cross country runs and taunted in the yard.

And that never goes away.

I tried fighting back but they just came back with their mates and did it harder. I tried telling teachers and they got a mild slap on the wrists and then came back with more of their mates and did it harder. So in the end, I gave up, built up a shell around myself, got a reputation for being bad-tempered and unapproachable and didn't have any friends any more.

I am now 31 years old. I run my own business, I am in a steady relationship with a beautiful daughter, a loving family and I have lots of friends. I have such a lot to give thanks for and I do!!

And yet, scratch the surface and that frightened little insecure kid is still there inside me. It's hard and I have tried to deal with it the best way I can but I don't think it is ever going to go away entirely, I just have to remind myself of the good things in life, whenever it does come out.

• Yes, it makes me feel good to think that other people have a good opinion of me.
• Yes, I like to have my opinions validated and affirmed by others.
• Yes, I freely admit that is my insecure side coming out.

Maybe that makes me worthy of pity, I don't know. But implying it is an undesirable trait and one to be got rid of or pitied has the opposite effect of making the insecurity stronger.

There are better ways of dealing with it.

OK, where do i start. First of all, im very sorry you was bullied at school. I was myself from the age of around 11-14. Then one day after a group of 3 girls attacked me, all the years of pent up feelings exploded and i lost my rag totally! I fought all 3 girls and had to be dragged off by a startled teacher who saw me as a victim. Now i don't believe i said anywhere in my posts that to be insure is a negative trait. I simply said it makes me feel sad when people are insecure, because believe me ive been there myself. Ive been up and down with my weight so ive have been bullied for being too fat, for being mixed race, for looking to good when i lost weight , to being a let down when i put it back on etc. But now at 32 im secure because i know Jesus loves me just the wayi am! I don't feel pity for you and don't see people who are insecure in a negative way and im sorry uyou took it that way. It just makes me want to hug people like i wished id been hugged many years ago myself.
Even the riches, prettiest, most famous person can be insecure. We all have our bridges to cross. My point really, concerning the whole rep thing was surely people would feel so much better if they knew they were getting their rep points from their posts rather than asking for them. I wasn't saying the whole rep thing was bad , because we all smile if are posts touch people in what ever way. I was talking about the rep where you give me a point and i'll give you a point. Of course people can do what they like with their reps, i suppose i was just interested how people dish theirs out. But as you say, if it makes some people feel secure, then more power to them! .
I wasn't judging others, mearly asking a question in no way hoping to upset anyone. God bless

 

[Mudhoney]

I gave some to Hey! Zeus! but he died.

 

[Musician]

Now i don't believe i said anywhere in my posts that to be insure is a negative trait.

I didn't say you did:

Sometimes when people say other people are insecure, they say it like it's some kind of undesirable personality flaw, like selfishness or greed - it's not like that at all.

You didn't say it like that, but I felt the need to point out what it is like for people who are NOT insecure and have never had the misfortune to BE insecure.

Such people simply have no understanding and I was merely educating them.

Your post was the catalyst as it were, I wasn't attacking you.

Admittedly, a side-effect of being insecure is being slightly paranoid and inferring that which was not intended, and it is ten times as hard on the internet, which is why we all have to be oh so careful so as not to be misunderstood.

 

[Rainbow.]

I didn't say you did:



You didn't say it like that, but I felt the need to point out what it is like for people who are NOT insecure and have never had the misfortune to BE insecure.

Such people simply have no understanding and I was merely educating them.

Your post was the catalyst as it were, I wasn't attacking you.

Admittedly, a side-effect of being insecure is being slightly paranoid and inferring that which was not intended, and it is ten times as hard on the internet, which is why we all have to be oh so careful so as not to be misunderstood.

I didn't think you was attacking me. I just wanted to be sure, you knew i wasn't attacking others. Im glad of your post as it made me think twice and it made me realise that sometimes people don't snap like i did, and get over there insecurities and we need to be reminded of that. But, your right when you say it's hard to communicate over the net as i had a smile on my face when i was replying to you, as i do now, so i was surprised you thought, that i thought you was attacking me! LOL
Anyway, glad we cleared all that up!

 

[Rainbow.]

I gave some to Hey! Zeus! but he died.

I don't understand what you mean by this, but i hope these are not people your talking about.