Reopening Doors...

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Eight months ago, I lost contact with my best friend of ten years. Her and I have always had an unsteady relationship, to say the least. My self-identity in the past years was shaky. I didn't know who I was and while she was not a terrible friend to me, something always felt off. I couldn't ever pin it down but I just got the distinct feeling that we weren't going to last for long.

After graduation, we made plans to move in together. Like, really serious plans. We even started to buy decor. But then something came up and the opportunity for her to move out of state for her job came up. She invited me to come with her and at first the idea seemed great. it eventually fell through, however, when I realized there was literally no reason for me to abandon everything and move to another state where I would have no job, no family, no sense of direction abandoned in the middle of nowhere with my dog and my friend's grandparents. My friend took this pretty well and things continued to be okay between us. But when it came time for her to leave, we both got distant with each other. When she left, we stopped talking.

Neither of us attempted to reach out to the other in the last eight months. I think that God's hand was in it because, in order for me to undergo the amazing change that I did last year, I needed to be alone. Now, my faith in him is stronger than ever and it's still growing and I know who I am. My friend has changed a lot, too. I feel like there's a chance for a possible reconciliation between us and maybe we can get to know each other again.

But my question is, is it God's will that I reopen that door? Could bringing her back into my life potentially take me back down the path I was on before? Mostly, how do I know that this is God's will and not mine?

Any advice would be much appreciated

 

[Andrew77]

I can't see any reason that it would, unless there is more to the story than what you have here.

Is there a reason to not contact her, that you haven't mentioned? If not, then I don't see a problem.

 

[dysert]

It sounds to me that there is probably more to the story than what's in the OP. You were good friends, you went your separate ways, and now you're wondering if you should reach out to her again. If there's no reason not to, then go ahead. What's the harm in calling her up and asking her how the past several months have been at her new location? See where the conversation leads. For all you know, she might be involved with someone else by now. Or she might be delighted to hear from you. Only one way to find out.