I heard a pastor on the radio explain why virginity is so important-- he said, "Every time you do it with another man, you give a piece of yourself away." Then he likened it to a piece of paper-- and how pieces are torn from it and given to other men-- they take those pieces with them, and she holds those memories. He used an analogy of glue to binds them together. For men, he said... "When you have sex before marriage, you are stealing a piece of another man's wife. She will be married some day, and if that spouse is not you, you have just stolen what belongs to another man!"
Wow! It hit me... those men who stole my wife's virginity; they robbed me.
To the man who broker her hymen-- it was nothing special.... it was at a party; you both had been drinking. It was done quickly, and you didn't treat her with the respect and dignity she deserved. Your 6 month relationship was rot with guilt-ridden sex, not love.
To the man who did it with her without protection-- do you know what you risked!? And, that consummation was for me!
To the man who introduced her to oral-- you really messed her up. It wasn't out of love... you did it for your own gratification, and you took advantage of her. You made the whole experience such a disaster; she did not want to even try it again for 10 years!
Man to man.... You all stole pieces of my wife!
My sex life was poisoned by these other men! Yes, my wife consented, and she carried that guilt. The men who did this stole her virginity.
I say this, not as a rant... I say this because of how it has affected my relationship.
I'm thankful to God we were able to work through the baggage, the hangups... we were able to take small steps... and work to make it enjoyable... make our sexual relations, our own.
In my heart, I forgive her past. Today, I share an intimacy with her that surpasses anything in her past.
I have come to realize something recently... after 20 years of marriage, a few months ago, my wife gave me something--a virginity, that she had never shared with any other man (nothing perverse or immoral.)
The gift of it was profound. I now have a piece of my wife that no other man has ever touched, seen or experienced. It's intimate, shared between only the two of us. It's special... very special. I cherish it and I'm grateful for it. While I've always felt very close to my wife, I feel a stronger bond with her now.
While I believe a woman should work to bring herself whole and pure to a marriage and a man should not steal pieces of other women (both of which amount to virginity), we are flawed beings.
However, I think even flawed people can recover the intimate bond that virginity brings. With God's blessing, we did.
Wow! It hit me... those men who stole my wife's virginity; they robbed me.
To the man who broker her hymen-- it was nothing special.... it was at a party; you both had been drinking. It was done quickly, and you didn't treat her with the respect and dignity she deserved. Your 6 month relationship was rot with guilt-ridden sex, not love.
To the man who did it with her without protection-- do you know what you risked!? And, that consummation was for me!
To the man who introduced her to oral-- you really messed her up. It wasn't out of love... you did it for your own gratification, and you took advantage of her. You made the whole experience such a disaster; she did not want to even try it again for 10 years!
Man to man.... You all stole pieces of my wife!
My sex life was poisoned by these other men! Yes, my wife consented, and she carried that guilt. The men who did this stole her virginity.
I say this, not as a rant... I say this because of how it has affected my relationship.
I'm thankful to God we were able to work through the baggage, the hangups... we were able to take small steps... and work to make it enjoyable... make our sexual relations, our own.
In my heart, I forgive her past. Today, I share an intimacy with her that surpasses anything in her past.
I have come to realize something recently... after 20 years of marriage, a few months ago, my wife gave me something--a virginity, that she had never shared with any other man (nothing perverse or immoral.)
The gift of it was profound. I now have a piece of my wife that no other man has ever touched, seen or experienced. It's intimate, shared between only the two of us. It's special... very special. I cherish it and I'm grateful for it. While I've always felt very close to my wife, I feel a stronger bond with her now.
While I believe a woman should work to bring herself whole and pure to a marriage and a man should not steal pieces of other women (both of which amount to virginity), we are flawed beings.
However, I think even flawed people can recover the intimate bond that virginity brings. With God's blessing, we did.
