Reminding myself the benefits of straight relationships and resisting temptation

[Bonnie77]

I've come to the conclusion that I may never get rid of my same-sex attraction to women. I'll think I'm getting over it but then a beautiful woman will catch my eye or I'll have a dream about going on a date with a woman. But the sin isn't worth it. I want to have kids some day and I definitely want to get in to Heaven.

Unfortunately I have to keep reminding myself the rewards for resisting same-sex attraction. Do you have any suggestions or advice for me? I struggle going back and forth from a gay/not gay phase.

I haven't done so, but I get tempted to sleep with a woman to see what it's like. I haven't slept with a man either so then I'm tempted to see what that's like. On a positive note my confusion has kept me from dating seriously so I haven't engaged in premarital sex. I'm 28 now so I might as well save myself for marriage like God intended. That wouldn't be such a big deal if I was a straight woman that never questioned my sexuality. But I'm afraid of getting married and later finding out that I can't be in a heterosexual relationship. I'd end up hurting my husband and get divorced. Neither of which I would want to happen.

Thanks for your help.

 

[DoggyMan]

One must not give into Satans temptations. I've heard many sinners quoting "Sin is delicious" and it may be, but for what price? Why would one want to spend an eternity in suffering, when you could spend it worshipping the Lord.
I cannot advise you greatly as I myself am also battling with temptation, the devil tempts me to question my gender and i find it so hard not to wear womens clothes. But keep in there. Be one with the flock and we shall all find paradise

 

[Follower86]

I haven't done so, but I get tempted to sleep with a woman to see what it's like. I haven't slept with a man either so then I'm tempted to see what that's like. On a positive note my confusion has kept me from dating seriously so I haven't engaged in premarital sex.

Hi Bonnie77,

I have the same problem, we are quite similar. I have to tell you to not sleep with a woman just to see what it's like. You have to keep fighting with those thoughts and urges, you must resist. Don't be with a man either just to see how it will be.. It's not only about sex, you have to really really love someone and what I understood from you, you don't love women, you didn't fall in love with a man. Wait for the right person. <Staff Edit>

 

[Leaizme123]

Hi Bonnie77,
I am by no means a perfect Christian, I've had my weaknesses and still struggle, so sometimes giving advice can feel hypocritical for me. However my heart goes out to you and the thing that sticks out in my mind in response to you is that God designed marriage to be between a man and a women. He did not create you to have same-sex attraction. I am not trying to condem you or make you feel judged. I am far from that, I just simply know and believe what God says about this. What you feel is a temptation and is from the enemy. The only thing I feel I could tell you is to keep in prayer and in the Binle. The enemy will always try to play on our weaknesses, so even if you are striving your best for God and living righteously and are still feeling tempted by attraction of the same sex, know it is satan and not you. thoughts come, but it's how we respond to them that count. Keeping fighting and relying on God! Much love