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Okay, I have one for you guys... Imagine, if you will, that your church doesn't allow divorce, but that someone got a divorce before joining your church, and furthermore, remarried.
Now... Let's assume that, under the circumstances, your church would definitely not have allowed the remarriage.
What do you do? Is this a "lifestyle of sin", like people who aren't married cohabiting and having sex? Was the sin a one-time thing? Is the marriage a valid one?
If the remarried person wanted to divorce the second spouse and go back to the first, would you support this?
My current emotional response is to say that, while it may have been a mistake for the person to remarry, vows do not stop being binding just because they were ill-considered; whatever sin there was happened already, and is in the past, and breaking the marriage up would simply be compounding the problem.
Second opinions?
(For those who are aware that I'm a second husband, don't worry; to the best of my knowledge, this is an idle theoretical question, not an immediate threat to my hard-won domestic tranquility.)
Now... Let's assume that, under the circumstances, your church would definitely not have allowed the remarriage.
What do you do? Is this a "lifestyle of sin", like people who aren't married cohabiting and having sex? Was the sin a one-time thing? Is the marriage a valid one?
If the remarried person wanted to divorce the second spouse and go back to the first, would you support this?
My current emotional response is to say that, while it may have been a mistake for the person to remarry, vows do not stop being binding just because they were ill-considered; whatever sin there was happened already, and is in the past, and breaking the marriage up would simply be compounding the problem.
Second opinions?
(For those who are aware that I'm a second husband, don't worry; to the best of my knowledge, this is an idle theoretical question, not an immediate threat to my hard-won domestic tranquility.)