Remaining a virgin until marriage

[Bride-to-be]

Why aren't there hardly any people in today's society remaining virgins until they are married?

I just do not understand, what is the hurry to loose ones virginity.

When I was 12 years old, I promised myself and God that I will remain a virgin until I am married. I am getting married in 2 months and I have kept to my promise. I also wanted to have self respect and stick to my morals.

Some people look at me funny when they find out I am a virgin. Like I do say they're a rare species! Is there anything wrong with been proud of my purity.

I also thought that the white wedding dress symbolised purity.

I am also great full that my fiance respected me and my wishes to remain a virgin. Himself been religious has done the same.

 

[Philothei]

Great post How inspiring and coming from a young person like yourself. I want express my gratitute to you that despite being so young you stand as a shinining example for all of us...

May the Lord bless your wedding and marriage and keep you.

Philothei

 

[copticorthodoxy]

God bless you

 

[Lukaris]

Lord bless Your servant.

 

[Barky]

You have passed the test that many of us fail... Your faith must be very strong. May the Lord continue to bless you by His Holy Sprit, both now and ever, Amen

 

[Bride-to-be]

Thank You all

Even though I feel like turning away from my faith due to the things I have been experiencing.

All I can say - may god give me strength before I turn away.

 

[Ryanswife]

That is awesome!!! You should feel good about your decision. The Lord will bless you for it. I wish I could say the same for me and my husband, but we were a couple of teenagers who fell to temptation. Anyway, good for you!!!

 

[The Princess Bride]

Thank You all

Even though I feel like turning away from my faith due to the things I have been experiencing.

All I can say - may god give me strength before I turn away.

Why would you want to so easily surrender something that you have protected and safeguarded for so long?

God is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him, and in remaining pure for your future husband, that has been not only a guarding of your "temple" but a pursuit and obedience of God's divine plan.

Don't allow the negativity and reactions that people may have influence your choice to no longer be a pure virgin. Your virginity is something you only can physically have once, so don't ever think that saving it for your husband is a waste of time.

 

[Philothei]

Wow what would ever make you want to give up your faith?

just curious here...

 

[Philothei]

I am also great full that my fiance respected me and my wishes to remain a virgin. Himself been religious has done the same.

Eh... well if he was a religious man then why be grateful? That was propably part of his upbringing right?...

I would say that is a match in heaven

 

[SpyridonOCA]

To be honest, I lost my virginity after graduating from high school, simply because I was on drugs at the time, lacked proper judgment, and felt that I deserved sex after seeing so many of my friends "succeeding" with women and me getting nothing. Looking back, I do not regret it, simply because a man should not hold his past against himself. At the same time, I was remorseful for what I had done, and sought Christ for His forgiveness. Being a foolish person at the time, it took actually having sex, having "good sex" in every worldly sense of the term, for me to realize that it's something that I'm only going to share with my future wife, someone I love enough to live and die for, just as Christ died for the Church.

 

[seashale76]

I also thought that the white wedding dress symbolised purity.

No. It is a common misconception. Traditionally, brides simply wore their best gown on their wedding day and typically wore many different colors. Queen Victoria popularized the idea of a white wedding and it was considered unconventional for a royal to do so, as white was considered the color of royal mourning (it technically still is). Women who had the means to do so always imitated what the royals did, and it somehow became the Western standard that we still cling to (or at least was revived as the standard after WWII). As for the rest of our 'traditional' wedding ideas and attached symbolism (such as white meaning purity) they tend to be post WWII societal constructs.

All of my grandparents wore their Sunday best for their respective church weddings (none white or veiled), but woe to my mother who tried to unsuccessfully convince my grandmother that she wanted the candleglow colored dress because it didn't wash her out like a white one would. Only loose women would wear off-white.

 

[cowboysfan1970]

Why aren't there hardly any people in today's society remaining virgins until they are married?

I just do not understand, what is the hurry to loose ones virginity.

I was just cruising through and found this topic. It's basically seen as the transition from childhood to adulthood. In other cultures they had rituals and ceremonies but we don't have much of that now so losing your virginity is seen as that ritual. At least that's how the world sees it anyway.

I'm holding out for marriage too. At my age I'm probably one of the oldest virgins here I bet but that's OK. The thing I've experienced is that even in the Christian community there are people that freak out over someone my age who's a virgin. It's not something that I'm either proud or ashamed of, it doesn't make me more Holy than anyone else, it's just me doing what I think is right.

 

[Byzantine Girl]

So many people are losing their virginity younger and younger because of the unholy sexual images they are bombarded with day in and day out. Seriously, television, songs on the radio...tv commercials..porn films on the internet! Sex is everywhere! We let our children dress like street-walkers and stand amazed when they turn up pregnant or suffer poor self-esteem and other issues due to premature sexual activity. So, it is HARD to remain a virgin in this society with the constant pressure to give in and do what "everyone else" is doing, that's why less people are doing it....and I give major props to bride-to-be for sticking to her vow. May God bless you and your strength!

 

[buzuxi02]

So many people are losing their virginity younger and younger because of the unholy sexual images they are bombarded with day in and day out. Seriously, television, songs on the radio...tv commercials..porn films on the internet! Sex is everywhere! We let our children dress like street-walkers and stand amazed when they turn up pregnant or suffer poor self-esteem and other issues due to premature sexual activity. So, it is HARD to remain a virgin in this society with the constant pressure to give in and do what "everyone else" is doing, that's why less people are doing it....and I give major props to bride-to-be for sticking to her vow. May God bless you and your strength!

I think you hit the nail on the head. Theres many factors, from the breakdown of the family to people waiting longer and longer to get married, false expectations, an erosion of morals and values (and the 'why' of this erosion is explained in the above post) , etc

 

[Shubunkin]

May God bless you both!! Many years!

 

[Stringaling]

Is there anything wrong with been proud of my purity.

I know that I may sound harsh, but be careful about making judgements of those around you. The thin line to pride can easily be crossed when you start questioning why everyone hasn't maintained the same moral standard as you have. This is not the first time I have seen (and spoken to) people, women especially, who question why everyone has fallen into the sin of premarital sex and stated how glad she is that she hasn't done what they've done. Do you remember the story of the publican and the pharisee???
Be careful not to fall into the trap of pride...

 

[Dorothea]

So many people are losing their virginity younger and younger because of the unholy sexual images they are bombarded with day in and day out. Seriously, television, songs on the radio...tv commercials..porn films on the internet! Sex is everywhere! We let our children dress like street-walkers and stand amazed when they turn up pregnant or suffer poor self-esteem and other issues due to premature sexual activity. So, it is HARD to remain a virgin in this society with the constant pressure to give in and do what "everyone else" is doing, that's why less people are doing it....and I give major props to bride-to-be for sticking to her vow. May God bless you and your strength!

WORD, Sister.

 

[cowboysfan1970]

There are a couple of things I'm thinking of. When you are in your teens it's very hard to control your sex drive. Especially if you are a guy. Your sex drive is incredibly strong at that age and it's something that I don't think girls that age really understand. It's very hard for a guy to remain pure during that time. I think as you get older it gets easier, but when you are younger the only thing that can really help you to control it is God.

I also think that sometimes virginity and purity can be made into idols. Some churches teach in such a way that purity and virginity become overvalued. It's as if you are in a perfect state and when you get married and lose your virginity then you have comprimised your purity and you will never be as good again. I heard once of a young couple that got married as virgins and still were on their one year anniversary. He just couldn't do that because he basically believed that when they crossed that line they could never go back and neither one of them would ever be pure again. When one or both has had a very strong idealism of virginity or purity put into them it can cause serious problems later. There obviously wasn't any distinction made to him about the difference between sex before or outside of marriage and sex inside of marriage. It was painted with a broad brush. Young people need it made clear to them when virginity serves you and when it no longer does.

 

[grob]

It will be sooo worth it when you get married! You won't regret it! God will bless you and your husband with a great marriage!