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from my point of view i'm not bothered people should be allowed to go out with whoever they want.

I understand what your saying, but I think it needs to be qualified by the statement that they show caution and know what they are getting into. There will be issues that need to be addressed. For the less bumpy ride homogeneous choices would be better, but love doesnt necessarily err on the side of caution all the time. :)
 
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Mustaphile said:
I understand what your saying, but I think it needs to be qualified by the statement that they show caution and know what they are getting into. There will be issues that need to be addressed. For the less bumpy ride homogeneous choices would be better, but love doesnt necessarily err on the side of caution all the time. :)

Awesome quote. I don't see the problem with inter-racial at all, and inter-faith relationships can be dangerous, but it depends on the individuals, and what religions we are putting side by side.
 
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I recommend against interfaith relationships as it will either dilute both faiths or create a tension between the two spouses. I would even caution against some interdenominational relationships where it would cause such stresses (an Amish peson marrying an evangelical, for instance).


Inter-racial/ethnic/cultural is okay as long as the marriage is based on two people really loving one another, not an attempt to thumb noses at the older generation.
 
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inter-racial/ethnic/cultural marriages are fine...no problem there but when it comes to inter-faith there is a huge problem. There is nothing specifically refering to obstaining from marrying someone of a different faith but we see over and over again in the bible "what does light have to do with darkness" "do not be unequally yoked" "how can two walk together unless they agree" God is clearly telling us that we need to be on the same page. If we are striving to serve God and live for him and our spouse isn't how can we both walk in agreement. If I am called to ministry or serve at some capacity at the church is my spouse going to support me and back me up...how are they going to encourage me to grow spiritually and mature in my knowledge of God...these are important issues that must be taken into consideration. It is so much easier to be led astray then it is to convince someone to serve God...if you are a person who is wanting to be sold out for God then you need to consider the spiritual effect that this relationship would have on your realtionship with Christ...
 
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XxAuroraxX said:
inter-faith and inter-race relationships. what do you think. good?, bad? should they just not be allowed or are you just not bothered?

from my point of view i'm not bothered people should be allowed to go out with whoever they want.
It's OK, but exercise caution when doing so, as such things can cause friction, whether from the differences themselves or from the families that may disapprove of the other person/family.
 
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I have nothing at all against inter-race relationships. I don't believe that inter-faith relationships are a good idea overall, but I would never presume to tell people they can't have relationships with people of other races.
 
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XxAuroraxX said:
inter-faith and inter-race relationships. what do you think. good?, bad?

Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
2 Corinthians 6:14

Inter-faith friendships are okay as long as is does not take away from your walk with God, since you can help unbelievers and even eventually bring them to Jesus. Inter-race relationships are fine in my book as long as they are based on love (hopefully Christian-love) and not physical attraction. Inter-race relationships between whites and another race bother me because the white race is only 8% of the world's population. And only 2% of the world's population is white women of childbearing age or younger (these are the ones most likely to become involved with non-whites). It simply bothers me to see the white race dwidling enough as it is with massive immigration to America and Europe along with low European birth rates.



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Subordinationist said:
Inter-race relationships are fine in my book as long as they are based on love (hopefully Christian-love) and not physical attraction. Inter-race relationships between whites and another race bother me because the white race is only 8% of the world's population. And only 2% of the world's population is white women of childbearing age or younger (these are the ones most likely to become involved with non-whites). It simply bothers me to see the white race dwidling enough as it is with massive immigration to America and Europe along with low European birth rates.

What is your source for these figures?
 
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XxAuroraxX said:
inter-faith and inter-race relationships. what do you think. good?, bad? should they just not be allowed or are you just not bothered?

from my point of view i'm not bothered people should be allowed to go out with whoever they want.
I think you are better off sticking with people who are similar in religion, culture, morals and values. Race makes no difference at all, but these other things all affect your worldview.

Cultural differences can be worked out if they are recognized and compromises are reached before marriage, but I think couples should share the same religion, morals and values.

Differences that seem small when you are first married often become large issues later, especially when you have to agree on what to teach your children. Many denominations, and religions require a vow before the marriage to raise your children in that church. Though someone may be willing to make that vow before marriage, after the child is born, and especially as the children age to the point where it is time for their education, it will be hard to support teaching them values, morals, worldviews that you dont believe in.
 
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i dont find it neccesary for anything at all to be the same. the simple fact is that generally, if someone is a Hindu, and someone is Christian, they will not get on well in reltionship terms, so it does not matter what they believe in that they are not compatible for a relationship because of what makes them up as a whole including their beliefs.

however, some people will be able to overlook these differences and make a healthy relationship. So belief and religion should have no bearing on what love has in store for us. after all, if you love them you will compromise, and it's all part of God's plan anyway.
 
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I would generalize it to an inter-cultural relationship. It's of course more difficult a relationship between people of very different cultures, than it is between ppl that share the same values.

As for inter-racial relationship, no problem at all if they have the same culture/values.
 
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