My Fiance is a Christian and has been most (if not all) her life. I go to her (our) church to learn and to hope that I will find the faith. Today we went to a membership class, so I could be a member. Towards the end of things, they handed out a "contract with God" (my words, not thiers), stating that we fully believe Jesus died for our sins and that we would spread the word of God. I wanted to sign it, but decided not to because I felt I would have been deciving myself and God about my convictions, because I could not honeslty say those thing that were not in my heart.
I did talk for a few minutes to the pastor about my delima and he asked for my number and was looking forward to talking with me about my questions and general conversation (I appreciated that.)
When we got home, I sensed something was bothering her, so I asked. "... spent all that time and you didn't become a member. I feel like I wasted 3 hours of my life. I've been through that before."
This shocked me more than anything. I told her that even though I did not become a member, I thought she would have been happy that I felt like a have come closer to God and made a good connection with the pastor for many of my questions.
Our religious differences have been a very sensitive subject between her and I. While I do understand her frustrations about us not being on the same page, I feel like any Christian would have NEVER felt it a waste of time to go with somebody, even if they did not become a member, but is overjoyed with the opportunities for me to become closer and understand God.
We argued over this for a while. I spent most of my time hoping that the woman I love would never feel it a waste to go with me for something like religion. I would never tell her feel like she is wasting my time for something that important in life.
If the woman who is supposed to love me so much, would hurt me so much trying to find myself with God, I feel like this should not be a person I should be with.
Am I alone in beleiving that that was unsupportive and selfish? (Furthermore, she adamantly would not appologize.)
I am not looking for an interpretation of why she said those words or bad mouthing and I understand very few things can be deemed "right" or "wrong" because there is always subjectivity, but am looking for some sense of majority that that was that a "wrong" thing to say.
I did talk for a few minutes to the pastor about my delima and he asked for my number and was looking forward to talking with me about my questions and general conversation (I appreciated that.)
When we got home, I sensed something was bothering her, so I asked. "... spent all that time and you didn't become a member. I feel like I wasted 3 hours of my life. I've been through that before."
This shocked me more than anything. I told her that even though I did not become a member, I thought she would have been happy that I felt like a have come closer to God and made a good connection with the pastor for many of my questions.
Our religious differences have been a very sensitive subject between her and I. While I do understand her frustrations about us not being on the same page, I feel like any Christian would have NEVER felt it a waste of time to go with somebody, even if they did not become a member, but is overjoyed with the opportunities for me to become closer and understand God.
We argued over this for a while. I spent most of my time hoping that the woman I love would never feel it a waste to go with me for something like religion. I would never tell her feel like she is wasting my time for something that important in life.
If the woman who is supposed to love me so much, would hurt me so much trying to find myself with God, I feel like this should not be a person I should be with.
Am I alone in beleiving that that was unsupportive and selfish? (Furthermore, she adamantly would not appologize.)
I am not looking for an interpretation of why she said those words or bad mouthing and I understand very few things can be deemed "right" or "wrong" because there is always subjectivity, but am looking for some sense of majority that that was that a "wrong" thing to say.
Lol. I'm not sure why she is being negative about it. A Christian shouldn't try to force another person to become a Christian. And IMO the important thing would be that you received forgiveness and that you were saved and not what church you are signed up with. 
