Relationships and MBTI...

[alexia]

http://thirsk.yi.org/psych/
-Go to the site index on the left, near the bottom, under "Topics" click on "Relationships"...


This site is pretty interesting. I'm an INFJ and I thought that it made sense but I think that it'll especially appeal to logical minded NT's. The guy who created the site is a INTJ.

So what do you think? I think he makes some valid points.

And to me the fact that our minds are so "variable" shows that God has a soulmate for us. Does that make sense? I mean your functions (E/I, N/S,F/T,J/P) would have to line up with your "spouse" in a complementary way. So your personalities would fit together like a puzzle...so you can't just fit with anyone not even someone that appeared to be similar to your soulmate.


p.s.

According to psychologists, "soulmate" is a term that is preferred by NF's

*NT's prefer = mindmate
*SP's = playmate
*SJ's = helpmate

 

[invisiblebabe]

Ooh these are fun

I'm an INxJ, dominant INTJ.

 

[KeilCoppes]

And to me the fact that our minds are so "variable" shows that God has a soulmate for us. Does that make sense?

Here we go again! :^)

You're right about complements. I assume you're not saying that this says that God has a particular someone for each and every someone?

 

[alexia]

You're right about complements. I assume you're not saying that this says that God has a particular someone for each and every someone?

NO...that site doesn't even suggest that. LOL

The things that I've learned from my walk with God or separate from the things that I've learned about personality types. But God made us mind, body, and soul...so I just like to correlate all the things that I've learned to see if it all fits.

Actually, I think that a few things that he said shows why a girl can be attracted to certain type of guy her whole life and never have any success with them. Each time she's upset because he's TOO different...but she keeps dating guys like him. But she finally finds one that she's "mentally" compatible with.

For instance, the INTJ guy on the site talked about how he's attracted to ENFP' s. He also explains that he had dominant "N" or "T" functions...so he would not be compatible with someone with dominant "S" or "F" function (i.e. ESFP). But other INTJ's I've read about are strongly attracted to ESFP's...this is because they have weaker "N" and "F" functions.

God made us all unique and there is no one on Earth who is exactly alike. I have an identical twin and we have different personalities (INFJ/INFP) just like all the other twins that we know.

So basically we're all so different ...so we all want slighlty different things. Basically all our choices are limited because for a relationship to work, there has to be mutual physical attraction and compatible pesonalities.

 

[KeilCoppes]

So basically we're all so different ...so we all want slighlty different things. Basically all our choices are limited because for a relationship to work, there has to be mutual physical attraction and compatible pesonalities.

Now that I can wholeheartedly relate to. Of course, then you add on all the other things that make us unique and find out how small the world is! Water, water everywhere...

(and ENxP would be me)

 

[fishstix]

As someone who has managed to get several different results from those silly tests, I would like to say that you can't fit the billions of people into the world into 4 or even 16 boxes. Thus, you can't really fit pairs of people into those neat little boxes either.

 

[alexia]

As someone who has managed to get several different results from those silly tests, I would like to say that you can't fit the billions of people into the world into 4 or even 16 boxes. Thus, you can't really fit pairs of people into those neat little boxes either.

That's my point.

I'm not sure you got my point. I'm not endorsing MBTI...I'm using it to show how unique we all are. If we all fit neatly into little boxes, then there wouldn't be any problems with dating. But the fact is that two INTJ's can "think" the same but be very different. One might go for one type of guy while the other chooses another. In my post I gave examples of this...some INTJ's prefer ENFP's and others are strongly attracted to ESFP's and I'm sure there are some other combinations.

The point of my post is that we are all different and we want different things. Recently, I read something by EHARmony and the guy suggested that some people have up to 100 possible mates or more and that's not really possible....esp. when you take into account all of our differences.

 

[waterbear]

Nice site, from my understanding of the extension of MBTI it advocates my alpha elements are INFJ and INFP, and their synthesis is INTJ (what any normal MBTI would indicate). I like the extension, I've always scored as a strong INTJ but identified strongly with descriptions of the INFP personality, this model explains that phenomena.

As for the relationships part, it mentions more stability in relationships (statistically) with 3+ letters of commonality in the resultant personalities, which agrees with my notion that like attracts like.

 

[alexia]

I like MBTI, but I really like how this model discusses the gray areas not covered by the other personality theories.