relationship question.

[kaileak]

My boyfriend and i are both Christians, we've been together for 3 years. When we first met i wasn't Christian but really wanted to learn about God. We have gone through alot of struggles, him growing up in a humble christian home, and my family being non-christian, and obsessed with "stuff".

recently, i get this feeling like some girl is going to come around and sweep him off his feet, and its not going to be me. I've prayed about it, but still feel un-easy. we have plans to be together for the long-term. We mesh so perfectly with our aspirations and things we want in life. I know he loves me, but theres still this thought in my head that says "what if this girl he wants to write songs with is more solid than i am? what if she's everything he wants in a woman?"

any advice?

 

[Rhye]

Do you feel he will judge you based on your family? You have changed your life and your heart for him and for God. He should be so lucky to have someone like you.

My advice would be to talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel and why you are having these feelings in the first place. They are coming from somewhere, and maybe finding out why you feel this way might help.

 

[Luther073082]

These are common fears and I would talk to him about it and tell him that you have worries about it. Don't phrase it as though you are accusing him or her but more of a

"Hey this is probably just me but I'm just a little worried about this girl and you spending time together."

Don't be overly aggressive about this. Ultimatly you have to trust that the guy can be in the same room with another girl without anything happening. And it would be a mistake to try to forbid him from doing these things or try to keep him away from her.

 

[Mindi.Heart]

Don't focus so much oh what COULD happen. It sounds like this guy really loves you and that should be reason enough to put your mind at ease. If he truly loves you then your all hes going to want.

 

[Fowler]

Dear Kaileak!

Your friend is really lucky ! You both were throught many struggles and issues. It only strenghtened your relationships! Dont worry! Evade such thought at all costs! Nothing will ruin you your life. I even envy a bit I wish I met such fidel and faithful person like you

God Bless You!

 

[lilyamongthorns98]

We as humans often struggle with many insecurities. Many people have those same insecurities in a relationship because you have a humbled view of yourself. Thinking that you don't deserve someone as great as he is. But God is a great God, He is going to provide someone for you that is so awesome that you don't deserve him. And knowing we don't deserve it should keep us thankful and grateful.

You should definitely pray for guidance, but it's also something you should talk about with your guy. If the relationship is something God wants than your guy will help put your fears to rest.

 

[Rhamiel]

all good things come from God
He loves you and He watches over you
do not worry about the future, just trust in God and seek to love Him more all the time

i know that sounds corny, but the joy you get when you give up worry and have nothing but a desire for the will of God is amazing

 

[NiobiumTragedy]

Don't be overly aggressive about this. Ultimatly you have to trust that the guy can be in the same room with another girl without anything happening. And it would be a mistake to try to forbid him from doing these things or try to keep him away from her.

This is very true. You can't allow the feelings you have over this cause tension in the relationship because you will stop trusting him when other women are around because it will, in the end, be the end of any relationship you have with him because it will drive him away.

 

[clary]

Don't focus so much oh what COULD happen. It sounds like this guy really loves you and that should be reason enough to put your mind at ease. If he truly loves you then your all hes going to want.

Correct! I think love is the only thing that keeps relationship going

 

[Saucy]

Hey, you're awesome and I wish you two the best! My prayers will be with you!