Relationship happening too fast?

[Belladonna_the_Deadly]

I moved to a new area several months ago. When I started attending a church here, I met a guy named Steve. He;s a really awesome guy but lately some problems popped up in our relationship. He confessed to me last week that he had very strong feelings for me. He said he'd even thought about marriage. We have only known each other for about six months. I told him that I needed some time to think, now I found out that my really good friend has feelings for him when I told her! Steve is a really great guy but I'm not sure if I love him more than a friend. I'm confused. Got any advise?

Belladonna

 

[mathias1979]

At your age, it's too young to seriously be thinking about marriage. You've just got to be honest with him about it, which it sounds like you are. Let him know you don't really want to be thinking about marriage. But another thing strikes me about your post...if you're not sure if you like him more than a friend, then you probably shouldn't be dating him...or at the very least, he needs to know that. If he doesn't know that, then you could be misleading him. He may think you're in love with him when you're not, and that's eventually going to become a problem. You need to let him know your feelings, and if he's not willing to accept that you're still unsure about your feelings, then it may be time to end the relationship.

-Matt

 

[desi]

Hang out with him in group settings to see how things go.

 

[Pope Gonzo]

You're not gonna like me after I say this, but in hindsight, I wish I hadn't dated until I was 18. At least.

 

[Iggster]

Afraid to say it, but Mathias is right. If you care about him as a friend and you want him to be happy, let him go. You can't even see pass him as a friend. So don't leave him hanging around with false hopes with you.

 

[SarahAblaze06]

i'm with desi- and tell him how you feel- totally. don't lead him on, but if you think you might like him let him know where you stand, at such a young age, and all that good stuff.

 

[bliz]

You are not ready for a serious relationship at this point in your life, no matter how fantastic a guy he is. Stay friends in a group setting.

If it turns out that you found your true love earlier in life than most people, that love will still be there in 4 years.

 

[ps34_18]

I'm with bliz on this one...