I am an Atheist and I met some times ago a woman who I would say is passionately Christian. We have developed very strong feelings towards each other. But she says that she cannot consider a relationship with me because I am not Christian. I actually have no intention to argue with her and try to change her mind and I am sadly respecting her choice. But I am really committed to understand her choice through the Scriptures. I read and (modestly) study the bible to find some answers and I would to invite you to help me understand or at least give me some insights. Again, I would like to understand through the Scriptures and I am using the KJB version below for my citations.
First, it does not seem to me that in the bible, the concept of a marriage between a believer and a nonbeliever is ruled out. This possibility exists.
1 Corinthians 7:12-13
12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away .
13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
But at the same time, it does not seem to be recommended
2 Corinthians 6:14
14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
However, the nonbeliever may be changed, but I understand that might be a burden for the believer to live with this hope, a burden that he might not accept to take on,
1 Peter 3:1-2
1 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
2 While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
Second, I understand that marriage is a sacred vow and there are many verses related to it as well as the role of the husband and the wife. I have not read anything that I am not ready to commit to with all my heart. Of course, as a nonbeliever, the only thing I would not be able to provide is spiritual guidance but maybe the more fundamental problem is that as a nonbeliever, I cannot have Christ as role model and therefore any vow I could commit to would have no value?
Ephesians 5:24-25
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
Finally, believers and nonbelievers have not been given the same heart? And is it naive to think that love is what is the drive?
1 Corinthians 13:1-13
1 Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.
2 And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing.
3 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.
4 Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
8 Charity never faileth: but whetherthere beprophecies, they shall fail; whetherthere betongues, they shall cease; whetherthere beknowledge, it shall vanish away.
9 For we know in part, and we prophesy in part.
10 But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away.
11 When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.
12 For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.
13 And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity
Thank you
First, it does not seem to me that in the bible, the concept of a marriage between a believer and a nonbeliever is ruled out. This possibility exists.
1 Corinthians 7:12-13
12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away .
13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
But at the same time, it does not seem to be recommended
2 Corinthians 6:14
14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
However, the nonbeliever may be changed, but I understand that might be a burden for the believer to live with this hope, a burden that he might not accept to take on,
1 Peter 3:1-2
1 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
2 While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
Second, I understand that marriage is a sacred vow and there are many verses related to it as well as the role of the husband and the wife. I have not read anything that I am not ready to commit to with all my heart. Of course, as a nonbeliever, the only thing I would not be able to provide is spiritual guidance but maybe the more fundamental problem is that as a nonbeliever, I cannot have Christ as role model and therefore any vow I could commit to would have no value?
Ephesians 5:24-25
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
Finally, believers and nonbelievers have not been given the same heart? And is it naive to think that love is what is the drive?
1 Corinthians 13:1-13
1 Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.
2 And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing.
3 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.
4 Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
8 Charity never faileth: but whetherthere beprophecies, they shall fail; whetherthere betongues, they shall cease; whetherthere beknowledge, it shall vanish away.
9 For we know in part, and we prophesy in part.
10 But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away.
11 When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.
12 For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.
13 And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity
Thank you