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Relationship Advice...pleeease Answer
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Honesty is the best policy IMO. You might start your conversation with him by explaining the fact that you've been in an abusive relationship in the past and you don't want to go there ever again. If he can't respect that, and chill out, it's probably time to move on.
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MattRose
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Wake up calls are often abrupt. Some people need to be startled to get the message.
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Naraoia
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I'd still reserve that tactic for the off chance that calm persuasion doesn't work.
To the OP: if you've TOLD him he's being rough and received that response, then this guy doesn't sound like someone who is simply unaware of his own strength. Get the hell out of this while you can.
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Avniel
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All the gun comments and wake up calls proves one thing yall watching to much oxygen/lifetime. It could be he was in a relationship with a rough woman or maybe he had a lot of older sisters that would play rough with him. Then with the profanity who knows his upbringing maybe to him using words that are vulgar means little.
The fact is we domt know his history or uobringing.
With that said if you run you show your weak men that hit women do so because the woman is weak. A woman with a strong backbone as well as close male family for muscle dont get hit.
If I were you I would text him you show signs of being abusive you are disrespectful and you huet me physically. I cant do a relationship like that because there are to many men in my family and they are crazy I just dont want to see them in any trouble because of who I date.
The fact is we domt know his history or uobringing.
With that said if you run you show your weak men that hit women do so because the woman is weak. A woman with a strong backbone as well as close male family for muscle dont get hit.
If I were you I would text him you show signs of being abusive you are disrespectful and you huet me physically. I cant do a relationship like that because there are to many men in my family and they are crazy I just dont want to see them in any trouble because of who I date.
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Well, you can:
A. Dump him and find a nice guy. I think Christians are attracted to bad boys and bad girls, because like angels, they want to save them. But devils are married to Lucifer and never will really be with you, they will just drag you down into the abyss and extinguish your light burning for Jesus.
B. Use your feminine manipulative skills.
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I think you've already answered your own question. Break up with him, without a second thought. When asked why, tell him he's rude, disrespectful and needs to grow up. Women who become the girlfriends of these kind of guys are just encouraging their bad behavior.
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Naraoia
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See, I wouldn't ever dump a guy because he swears a lot (heck, I swear like a sailor...), but she's already told him he's being physically rough, and his answer is that she's just overly dramatic? I have a few choice vulgarities for people like that, but whatever you call them and whatever their upbringing, the fact is they are dangerous.
And if the woman is strong, they don't hit her because they don't want to get hit back? Not because they don't want to hurt their loved ones?
Why would you want a boyfriend with that sort of character?
IMO the type of guy who becomes an abuser won't change his mind about women just because someone stands up to him. He'll just file that woman away as a b****. And he's probably not going to be any nicer to her as a result. Is it worth getting into an abusive relationship because you want to Show Them?
Also, using your male relatives as a deterrent is hardly a sign of strength.
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Jupiter Drops
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I would honestly cut ties with that guy. I hope that God will protect you from all this. Get your father or pastor or some group of people to help you get away from this guy if he's persistant. He won't be good to you.
Quit seeing him. Now. Before it's all too late.
Quit seeing him. Now. Before it's all too late.
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