Relationship advice:I sin often when I think about my boyfriend,is it best to end it?

[Lovingchristjesus]

Hello!
>> I am a Christian woman seeking Christian Godly advice, please support your answer with Biblical scriptures.
Christian dating has been a true humbling experience for me. I don't take dating lightly, I see my relationship with my current boyfriend as a courtship or preparation for a marriage that will wholly serve and glory the LORD.

My Christian boyfriend and I both see purity as important as an unmarried couple. (We give quick kisses a couple times when are physically together and hold hands) . When I am with him, I feel my mind is pure and I am not distracted from giving honor to the Lord.

However when i am not with him, I go into this dark side, often alone I begin to experience SINFUL thoughts- by JUST THINKING about him. I begin to lust after him, and if not lust, jealous and prideful thoughts arises. ( I had less of these thoughts when I was single)

The Holy spirit convicts me, and I take full responsibility of my sinful thoughts. Now I seek for advice. What do I do? I don't believe my boyfriend is tempting to me to sin, and I feel I am weak these sins because my relationship with Christ maybe weak .

Would this be a case where I may not be ready to be involved in relationship? I know SIN will always be a part of life but I want to do what's best for my relationship with Christ Jesus.

Thank you! Thoughts and insight are much appreciated

 

[WinBySurrender]

The Holy spirit convicts me, and I take full responsibility of my sinful thoughts. Now I seek for advice. What do I do? I don't believe my boyfriend is tempting to me to sin, and I feel I am weak these sins because my relationship with Christ maybe weak.

This part of your post indicates that you realize who you are in Christ, and that you take the straying of your thought from Him seriously. Therefore, your real issue is obsessing about the cycle without doing anything about it.

1 Corinthians 10
3 For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh,
4 for the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh, but divinely powerful for the destruction of fortresses.
5 We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ ...

Strongholds/fortresses are part of many, if not most, Christians' lives. Sanctification -- the process of being made holy and set apart -- is ongoing and continuous until we draw our last breath (please, no one else drag other divisive threads into this!) and getting our strongholds pulled down is the most difficult part of the process. Stay attuned to Christ. Obviously you are, or this would not be a concern to you. "Tak[e] every thought captive" before the obsessing and depression take over your mind. Pray and love God and all will be well.

 

[ashout]

i have dark thoughts too, they are hard to get rid of. stay strong and pray often my friend, if you ask God to lead you and you open up to him, he will. this boy may be wrong for you, or he may be perfect for you. i cannot say based only on what you have said. if God loves you, you will come out of this stronger by doing as you think God would have you do, no matter what that entails. and i'm not saying to break up with your boyfriend, although that might be what God wants you to do.

 

[InSpiritInTruth]

Hello!
>> I am a Christian woman seeking Christian Godly advice, please support your answer with Biblical scriptures.
Christian dating has been a true humbling experience for me. I don't take dating lightly, I see my relationship with my current boyfriend as a courtship or preparation for a marriage that will wholly serve and glory the LORD.

My Christian boyfriend and I both see purity as important as an unmarried couple. (We give quick kisses a couple times when are physically together and hold hands) . When I am with him, I feel my mind is pure and I am not distracted from giving honor to the Lord.

However when i am not with him, I go into this dark side, often alone I begin to experience SINFUL thoughts- by JUST THINKING about him. I begin to lust after him, and if not lust, jealous and prideful thoughts arises. ( I had less of these thoughts when I was single)

The Holy spirit convicts me, and I take full responsibility of my sinful thoughts. Now I seek for advice. What do I do? I don't believe my boyfriend is tempting to me to sin, and I feel I am weak these sins because my relationship with Christ maybe weak .

Would this be a case where I may not be ready to be involved in relationship? I know SIN will always be a part of life but I want to do what's best for my relationship with Christ Jesus.

Thank you! Thoughts and insight are much appreciated

It is better to be wholly devoted to the Lord, but if you cannot contain then marry. For it is better to marry than to burn within with those lustful thoughts. There is no condemnation in marriage.

1 Corinthians 7:9
But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

 

[JCFantasy23]

I would not abandon the relationship as it sounds like it is an issue you personally need growth on. Cutting off the source isn't always the answer, but rather work on getting you where you need to be when encountered with these situations.

 

[Charles Spurgeon]

I think the good thing is to stay in the relationship... unless if the Lord is really and truly convicting you to drop it.

As it is, as long as both of you guys are truly saved... why not just get married more quickly than later?

But, as for the thoughts, we all struggle... don't let it get you down.