Rejection

[lostaquarium]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9znqy_4FY40 Ever heard this song?

I heard it yesterday and actually understood what it was saying. It describes me sometimes, sadly one of my downfalls is that I have this perfectionist tendency that I've struggled with for a while, ready to let it go but it's a battle.

Sure, one I know God will take away. But yes, I know exactly what you mean. We've just got to learn to know that it's ok to be hurt and share that with others. I am trying to learn how to trust people and let my guard down, at least with friendships.

It will take awhile for me to trust some guy romantically enough to let my guard down with them. But that's ok- if he's the right guy, I figure he'd say that I'm worth it and would be patient.

Wow. Thanks for posting that song! I really like it.

In answer to the OP: Yes, I'm afraid of rejection sometimes. I think all people are, to some extent. But sometimes I can overcome the fear by telling myself it doesn't matter. It requires a conscious effort, but it works

 

[GQ Chris]

The way I see it, I can think of two things, being a wallflower dweeb and then thinking back later on if I had just had guts maybe I'd be with her. Or get rejected and then be satisfied knowing she wasn't interested in the first place.

 

[LadyL]

It's not always that easy Chris, sometimes people have issues with rejection because of things that went on with their childhood. It's not just a normal fear of rejection, there are deeper insecurity issues that also need to be dealt with.

But yes, I do wish it was that easy to just tell myself "get over it" lol

 

[GQ Chris]

It's not always that easy Chris, sometimes people have issues with rejection because of things that went on with their childhood. It's not just a normal fear of rejection, there are deeper insecurity issues that also need to be dealt with.

But yes, I do wish it was that easy to just tell myself "get over it" lol

I like to punch my wounded inner child right in the mouth, and tell him "I've moved on with my life!!"

 

[Blank123]

Chris is mean to his inner child I wonder if Child Welfare would talk to him

 

[GQ Chris]

LOL. call child protective services, I had to smash him again the other day for wanting to feel sorry about something.

 

[ceh85]

Lol I read a book once that advised having a conv with your inner child, like literally putting a chair in front of you and moving from one place to the other as you talk.

I didn't do it. Too scared of what might come out

 

[Rocklee]

I like to punch my wounded inner child right in the mouth, and tell him "I've moved on with my life!!"

Thanks, I want to do the same thing too!

 

[Sketcher]

I like to punch my wounded inner child right in the mouth, and tell him "I've moved on with my life!!"

That's a sign that you're not fully over it. Would you like to relax on the couch and talk about your feelings?

 

[Quoth]

Whether it be relationships, friendships, etc., I think everyone has suffered rejection at some point. But do you ever find yourself fearing rejection? Does that fear ever hold you back from forming meaningful relationships?

For me, I wouldn't call it so much of a fear as an annoyance. I find it very irritating.

 

[GQ Chris]

Thanks, I want to do the same thing too!

You can! There's life on the other side.

 

[GQ Chris]

That's a sign that you're not fully over it. Would you like to relax on the couch and talk about your feelings?

Hahaha lol. Do you do sliding scale? lol