Rehersal Dinner

[Inperfected]

Just need advice, from anyone!

Is it compulsary to have a rehersal dinner... I'll be cooking meals for a few that week anyhow, but is it "compulsary (or highly expected)" that there WILL be one. My mums never heard of one, and I personally think it's just more money.

 

[bumblebee62331]

A rehearsal dinner for a wedding? Sorry I'm confused, I mustn't know the history behind this.

 

[peanutbutter12]

Unfortunately. It's one of those things very much expected. We just added it to the list when we got married of things we needed to pay for. I believe it's customary for the grooms family to pay for it, but don't quote me on that. I know I had to pay it.

CJ

 

[JesusWasn'tWhite]

Pretty customary to have a rehearsal dinner after the ceremony rehearsal, inviting the officiant, all wedding party & their dates, and immediate family of the bride and groom.
It doesn't have to be fancy, you could do a barbeque if you wanted, or put sloppy joe's in a crock pot, or have bbq beef on buns with chips and stuff like that.

Me, I think we're going to have our rehearsal dinner at a great Mongolian restaurant we both love. And Dan's parents will be paying for it.

 

[soulsearching1]

Ditto to the person above. My best friend got married last fall and from what I understand, it's pretty much customary. However, the cost or at least the preparation falls on the groom's side. But as mentioned, it can be anything you want- a BBQ or dinner at someone's house, etc. Mostly, it's sort of to get the closer family/friends together and spend some quality time together and say thanks, etc before the craziness of the wedding the next day. Not everyone is to be invited- just those directly in the wedding party, parents and other very close guests/relatives. And if the bride/groom are giving gifts to their attendants, that's when they usually give them. On that note- those don't have to be expensive either. My best friend made all of us earrings to wear during the wedding Plus, it was just really nice to have a quieter dinner to kind of relax before the big day.

 

[peanutbutter12]

We had mexican. Hardly what you would call fancy. But boy was it good. Mmmmmmmmmmmmm

CJ

 

[Inperfected]

Argh. My mum didn't have one, but I don't know what my tobe mum in law will decide. We'll c in the next couple of weeks I guess... maybe even potluck