recycled virginity

[kat123]

Hi All,
I wanted to get some feedback from people about recycled virginity and all that goes along with that. (i.e. living a chaste life).

Unfortunately, I have not always been so strong in my decision to live, as God wants me to and became involved in a negative scene in high school. My relationship with my parents became very strained. I got into drugs and alcohol; from there, I became sexual active in relationships that were extremely unhealthy. Eventually, I ran away from home for about six months because I did not want to deal with my family.

My senior year I had to move back home to finish school. In addition, my parents and I went to counseling to heal the relationship, since then I have been drug free and no longer depend on alcohol. However, it was not until two years ago that I realized that being sexual active with my boyfriend even in a committed relationship was not doing me any favors.

I am currently going to counseling to deal with the pain and regret and as a part of that, I am trying to write a talk about my experience that I can give to girls in high school to help them be strong enough to make the decisions that I couldn't.

If anyone out there can offer information about recycled virginity or would just like to talk.... thanks for letting me share.

Katy

PS. Additional note:
I am currently single and have no children of my own, I hope to get married and have a family someday. I have also been worried about how to talk to my own children at the right time and how I can address my situation without sounding like a hypocrite.

 

[Blindfaith]

It sounds to me like kat wants to live up to God's standards, not man's, and I think she should be encouraged as such if that is her choice.

I'm going to move this to a different forum. I'm doing this because I believe that you need to be surrounded by people who are supportive of your decisions, of your healing and mending of relationships, and encouraged to be more like Christ.

I think it's great what you're doing - it sounds like you've traveled a rough road not unlike what I did at your age. But the difference between you and I is that you have the courage to turn your life back around onto the narrow path and accept the cleansing of Christ, whereas I kept going down the 8-lane freeway of life until I was in my 30's. I'm giving you huge kudos kat!!

God Bless.

 

[ZiSunka]

Kat, the minute you confessed that God's way was the right way, you were made clean and new. You can start from here and be a whole new person, one that doesn't have sex outside of marriage.

Let go of the pain and regret and start to live that fresh new life!

 

[TCapp]

You won't be hypocritical because you realized you made some serious mistakes. You're not interested in repeating them.


Let me use an example. Let's say you stole a candy bar when you were younger. You have since learned that was wrong and you will never do it again. It wouldn't be hypocritical for you to tell your children not to steal candy bars -- even though you did it once when you were young -- because you know it's wrong and the consequences are unpleasant.

Does that make sense?

 

[Stanfi]

You have done what you need to do. You have went to God and confessed your sins. They are now under the blood of Christ. He cast them as far as the east is from the west and does not remeber them anymore.

I believe that any guilt you are still having, is Satan trying to bring you down and pull you away from God.

Put God first in your life, and ask him to help you overcome these feelings and he will.

 

[ukok]

some of us take a long time to realise the error of our ways and the distance that our actons put between ourselves and God. Be encouraged! You are making very positive steps in the right direction. Continue to lean on the Lord in all things. Remember that we say 'Thy will be done', in the Lords prayer, not 'Our will be done'.

 

[Cosmic Charlie]

PS. Additional note:
I am currently single and have no children of my own, I hope to get married and have a family someday. I have also been worried about how to talk to my own children at the right time and how I can address my situation without sounding like a hypocrite.


Heres how you handle it: you don't. In this life there is almost nothing more private then your sexual history. One has to, or in my opinion, should know. That means your husband, your chidren, everybody. Aside from the fact that who you sleep with is your business, sex, even illict sex, is a very special act between two people. Exposing it to evaluation is just wrong.