Rebound-Husband

[changingman]

Need prayer and suggestions. Been married for a little over one year. We dated for 10 months. The first 6 months she was finalizing her divorce from her ex husband. It started out as a friend and tried to keep it that way as I knew she needed to heal and did not want to be a re-bound and stated this alot!! She wanted to excel our relationship as she never loved somebody so much..I loved her also.

The last year has been filled without hurts. I held on too tight afraid that I was the rebound and she felt smothered and started to think she should have waited for her ex to come around. She has even told me she does not love him but it would be better for the kids but she loved me.

So now we are separated We talked after a week and she only wanted to hear what I had to say so I told her I loved her and wanted our marriage to work. She said she loved me but does not wants to hurt me.She said she looks back now and realizes she was an emotional state in her life when she met me and I was a rebound. She does not want to hurt me anymore.

So...where do I go from here. Is this a marriage that God does not want? Is it time to forget her and move on. Do we involve the church to save the marriage? Second marriages are hard I know that, but WOW this is HARD. I do not want to control anything so I leave it to God.

I dont want to involve our friends as that would make her feel like I'm stealing them or talking about her.

Suggestions appreciated..Prayer Required if you read this

 

[Autumnleaf]

If she doesn't want to be with you then you don't have much choice. You can back off and maybe she will miss you and come back to you. Or you can chase her until she files a restraining order against you.

 

[DZoolander]

That about sums it up.

 

[dayhiker]

So as I read your message she is doing this mostly for her kids. I'd like to hear how your and her relationships with her kids has been. How is your separation going to improve that? What is going on with her ex and the kids?