reason for divorce?

[kedata]

I have to agree - Get out. Even if he does not want a divorce and fights it, it is better to be separated, single and alive than return to a potentially fatal situation.

Trust in the Lord and seek first his kingdom and He will provide for all your needs.

 

[Cody2]

Three Reasons for Divorce: Death(1 Cor. 7:39), Adultery(Matt. 19:9) and Abandonment(1 Cor. 7:15).

 

[janman345]

Three Reasons for Divorce: Death(1 Cor. 7:39), Adultery(Matt. 19:9) and Abandonment(1 Cor. 7:15).

Matt 19:9 is more expansive than just adultry and is better translated marital unfaithfulness which encompases much more than just adultry.

 

[mjmcmillan]

Death as a reason for divorce: That would be something to try.

"Your honor, I want to divorce my wife. She died last week, and according to scripture that's grounds for divorce."

Divorce judge; "Huh? That's a new one. If your wife is dead you're a widower--- no need for a divorce. Get out of my courtroom before I have you on a contempt charge! Geez, I would come in today."

 

[puregrl]

Thank you all for your encouragement and advise. Since July I have moved into a safehouse and he followed me to the area with intent on restoring the marrige. I moved out of the safehouse into a home of my own. I have had counseling both individually and in group. We are currently seperated. I see him fairly often. I would like to say that I do know what I want to do as far as divorce. But i am unsure. He is treating me very well, but when we argue it can get nasty. He has not touched me since i moved away though.
To one in particular person who seems to think that staying with someone who abuses their spouse is a good idea because of the basic fact they are married...I can tell you that you are 100% wrong. You know nothing of what it is like to be beaten and strangled regularly by someone who you love and who claims to love you. Till death do us part does not mean till my spouse kills me!
I do plan on taking my time in making sure i am making the right decision. I pray regularly for wisdom. I do not want to get back into a bad situation, but if he is different and will stay that way I do not want to loose what could be a wonderful marriage.

 

[ShainaBrina]

Puregrl, If you've been in counselling you should be aware of the cycle of violence. In the Honeymoon phase everything is wonderful but as tension builds the abuser gets closer and closer to an eruption of violence. Sounds like you've already begun to experience some small eruptions when "it can get nasty" and this is while he's trying to win you back. Don't forget that he doesn't have to hit you to control you now, the fear of being hit/strangled controls you.

What will it be like when he's got you back? And when you're pregnant (which is when most abuse starts)? Once children are on the scene, abusive men tend to think they've really got ya and things can really escalate.

You are young, you have plenty of time to start over.

 

[puregrl]

I have considered the cycle, which is why i am taking my time with everything...trying to get a clear picture of it. Thankfully i am not pregnant and do not have any kids, which makes the decisions easier. But a agree, i am still young. It is just hard to walk away sometimes.

 

[kanga22]

Puregrl, I'm so glad to hear that it sounds like you are on a good and solid path. Good luck to you.

Autumnleaf, you are, and have always been, the biggest idiot I've ever had the displeasure to listen to. I have always, and still do, feel so so sorry for Mrs. Autumnleaf. I pray for her safety, wellbeing, and happiness. Autumnleaf, I pray that you get a clue someday.

 

[Luther073082]

Three Reasons for Divorce: Death(1 Cor. 7:39), Adultery(Matt. 19:9) and Abandonment(1 Cor. 7:15).

Umm Death is the successful end of a marriage, not a divorce or a reason fo rit.

*By the way I know it sounds messed up to pronounce death as a successful end. However I mean successful in the terms of both parties maintained their vows, "til death parts us." I clearly don't mean that its something either party necessarily wants.*