Re-marriage

[farout]

The article says this is the verse:
“I say to the UNMARRIED and widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I [the Apostle Paul] am; but if they cannot exercise self-control, LET THEM MARRY. FOR IT IS BETTER TO MARRY THAN TO BURN WITH PASSION” (1Corinthians 7:8,9)

But if you look up that verse it varies depending on the bible you use. None the less its debated about the unmarried part is the original translation seem to imply widows only, not the unmarried. At past that I've read its not referring to those who are single again. Its why it doesn't say to the "unmarried, widowed and divorced". So even if someone is fine with the version the article says, it doesn't mention the divorced. Obviously this topic isn't mentioning what the remarriage is in regards to. So I'd say obviously being single is obvious. Being a widow is also obvious since your spouse died. But divorce does not allow for remarriage. Because you are still tied to that person in Gods eyes. Which is why many believe you shouldn't divorce in the first place. Having looked at multiple studies on the original text at no point does anyone say someone divorced can remarry.

Now many say "What about adultry?". Well heres an answer I find makes sense about adultery not being grounds for divorce (hence you cannot divorce for any reason):


That to me has always been my case. This life is temporal. So is marriage, pain, suffering...etc. So if someone is stuck in a nasty marriage, then it will end at some point and they will be free of pain. One person told me "Thats a sick view to have, the person should accept abuse then?". Well for starters the bible says that, I'm just the messenger. But I'd say if abuse should lead to divorce, then does that mean those who are in lots of pain and suffering from illness are free to commit suicide? Pain is pain right? Obviously most christians would say suicide is a sin and wrong. Like wise pain in a marriage has no means you have to suffer. Now, I am not saying thats fair of course. Its horrible really. Its not easy to even say you have to be stuck in it. But the bible makes it clear. Its why I look forward to being in heaven. I love being married of course, but death will mean I can be pain free, health problem free, free of those who ridicule me and make me feel like I shouldn't exist.

I hope that sheds some light on the subject. But if anyone disagrees I won't argue about it past this because the question was asked and I just want to share my total view on it. We are all allowed to disagree on things. We will only find out if we were right or wrong once we stand before God.

Do you understand the difference between putting away and sending away? By your statements I can't help but wonder what word studies you have done. One can have a Biblical view that on the surface seems right, but when carefully researching the very words used there are different meanings, right?

Pretend for a moment you are a pastor. Jane and bill doe come in and say they divorced their first spouses, because they didn't love them any more. They dated each other and got married and now heard your sermon about remarriage, what do you tell them?

 

[NothingIsImpossible]

I'd tell them they are living in sin as they are still married to their original spouse in Gods eyes. Now if your asking should I tell them divorce or something at that point. That I don't what to tell them because its complicated. Though I'd think divorcing who they are with would not matter to God since their marriage to this new person was never official in Gods eyes anyways. But.... I'd tell them what they choose to do is up to them at that point. At that point you have really made things worse for yourself.

 

[Dave-W]

they are still married to their original spouse in Gods eyes

No they are not. Deuteronomy 24 specifically says that if a couple divorces and either of them remarry they are FORBIDDEN to get back together:

2 when she has departed from his house, and goes and becomes another man’s wife, 3 if the latter husband detests her and writes her a certificate of divorce, puts it in her hand, and sends her out of his house, or if the latter husband dies who took her as his wife, 4 then her former husband who divorced her must not take her back to be his wife after she has been defiled; for that is an abomination before the Lord, and you shall not bring sin on the land which the Lord your God is giving you as an inheritance.

You can argue back and forth all day about whether the Law is in effect. It does not matter. God does not change what is, in His opinion, an "abomination."

 

[NothingIsImpossible]

In that case then if you are divorced then you really have no options but to remain single until your end days.

 

[98cwitr]

How do others view the topic Re-marriage.Is this allowed or not?

Not to seem legalistic, but Jesus taught against the notion of re-marriage. I made a promise to God and my my wife, even in death, I will only be hers.

 

[LinkH]

I'd like to point out that divorcehope is full of error. It's put up by someone who doesn't know Greek and doesn't know what he's talking about. Just reading the context of Matthew 19 shows that the author of the website doesn't know what he's talking about. 'Put away' in Matthew 19 does NOT mean 'put away without a certificate.' Jesus was addressing the topic of putting away wives with certificate in hand, like Deuteronomy talks about, like the Pharisees were talking about in the context of the passage.

Matthew 19
7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
10 His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.

Contrary to what the author of the divorcehope website says, Jesus taught that if a man puts away his wife, except it be for fornication, and marries another, he commits adultery, and he that marries her that is put away commits adultery.

As the context shows, and the passage from Deuteronomy under discussion shows, they are talking about wives who are put away with a legal certificate of divorce in hand. Deuteronomy speaks of a man giving his wife a certificate of divorce and putting her away.

So Jesus words about adultery apply to the situation they were discussing in the passage-- putting away WITH a divorce certificate. These words aren't limited to the situation they were not discussing, the agunah problem, a woman kicked out without a certificate. Verse 7 shows that these men are asking about 'putting away' a woman without a certificate. The passage they are referring to is about putting away a woman with a certificate.

 

[mikesayen]

How do others view the topic Re-marriage.Is this allowed or not?

I acctually was shown the answer about this from the Holy Spirit. Not of my self. He revieled this through the simple word of God. According to Deut. 24:1 only a man can initiate a divorce. This was because she was under his "rule" Gen. 3:16. She, therefore; could not divorce him. This theme is repeated again by Jesus in Matt. 19:9 and by Paul in 1 Cor. chapter 7. Paul said it plainly to Gentiles living in Corinth as well as Jews, per Jesus. If a woman separates from her husband she is either to remain unmarried (meaning that the separation was code for divorce) or remarry her former husband. She had no other options. Jesus did not give that instruction to the men in 1 Cor. 7:11 but told them no to divorce their wife (a more formal word for a divorce proceeding by cultural laws). Paul did say, later on, that if he is loosed (by Scriptural principles) he can remarry and it is not a "sin" 1 Cor. 7:27-28. I hope this answers your questions. Oh, it does not tell the man he must wait till the death of his wife, before he can marry again, but only the woman. This was because the woman was considered so bound to his wife that they question if she would ever be allowed to marry again.