Re-marriage

[ys2000]

How do others view the topic Re-marriage.Is this allowed or not?

 

[ValleyGal]

Yes. Others, however, will disagree.

 

[Avniel]

I think it depends on the reasons for divorce. My belief is if you get remarried and the divorce isn't for adultry then that is the sin of adultry. Forgiven by discounting sexual contact and reptance

 

[farout]

How do others view the topic Re-marriage.Is this allowed or not?

 

[farout]

How do others view the topic Re-marriage.Is this allowed or not?

You have asked a question that has a simple and a very complex answer. Simple: Divorce is always centered around "hardness of the heart". Is any sin except rejecting for Jesus Christ (Blasphemy against the Holy Spirit) unforgivable? The Bible says adultery is the sinless grounds for divorce by the innocent spouse.

If someone is looking to get rid of their spouse there are ways to make it look like you are so guiltless. But only the LORD knows your heart. People fail to see that entering into marriage is a covenant between you two and the LORD and that stands for unsaved people as well. Divorce is failure, no one wants failure, most generally.

Here are some hurtful facts. Divorced persons remarrying have a 75% chance of divorcing again. Christian marriages divorce about the same as everyone else. Most people don't learn from a divorce what they need to change, in order to prevent the same mistake again.

I know of very few Christian couples who pray or read the Bible together. Even children are not enough to keep most marriages together. Not being happy is a huge stupid reason to divorce. If you are expecting someone else to make you happy, rather than wanting to make someone else happy you are doomed before you start a marriage.

We never give deep thought that we are going to answer to God for what we have done with our mate, good or bad. As a Christian we are held to a higher standard, especially in how we treat our mate. When we say we will be loyal to death do we really mean it? What about in sickness and health, do you really mean it? When we get older this often comes into reality.

There are mates that are cruel, abusive, and physically hurt us, that is unacceptable. Separation is advisable before divorce. Unless a spouse has remarried there is always hope to restore a marriage, but we need to give God time to work in our spouses life. Have we given God time to reach out to our spouse?

It is better to be single than to be in a miserable marriage with no hope. God loves single people and married as well. Remember two can live as cheaply as one. but only for half as long. Romans chapter 8:26-39 is such a blessing especially. I encourage you to read these verses that will help you no matter what you are enduring right now.

 

[NothingIsImpossible]

As always I am against divorce no matter whats going on in the marriage. This is a temporal life. The pain and suffering doens't matter since the real life begins after. Jesus sacrificed it all for us, how much more would I? I think I said that right, bit sleepy.

 

[Harfelugan]

How do others view the topic Re-marriage.Is this allowed or not?

I rarely ask what others think of things without first finding out what scripture says about it. This keeps me from attempting to justify my personal desires. You will find christian's that deny it outright and others that allow almost any reason for remarriage. Many churches choose for some reason to not ask their people personal questions about their marriages or discuss the topic. Fear of losing people to negativity and such. We shouldn't really be focusing on peoples pasts. God's grace covers divorce and remarriage, it's not the unpardonable sin. The present is different though, we should have discussions about what is happening today in our thoughts on remarriage. There are reasons given biblicaly for divorce, adultery, abuse, abandonment. Little text evidence for remarriage though other than negative.Remember what is within the texts given of the NT. The context they is addressed to legalistic critics who were testing Christ in the Law, and I will take it no further than that. The choice is ultimately your's, work it out with God, justify it with scripture, let no christian bring feelings of guilt on you. If your wrong in your decision the Spirit alone should convict you. And most of all don't let your decision be influenced by anyone in a discussion forum. If you need help look to christian's who know you and your situation.

 

[ValleyGal]

Here's one answer to the OP
http://www.divorcehope.com/stillmarriedafterdivorce.htm
The whole book is an interesting study, especially about remarriage. At first glance of a 21st century English Bible it appears remarriage is sin, but a deeper study shows that marriage after divorce has always been God's intent.

 

[Avniel]

Here's one answer to the OP
http://www.divorcehope.com/stillmarriedafterdivorce.htm
The whole book is an interesting study, especially about remarriage. At first glance of a 21st century English Bible it appears remarriage is sin, but a deeper study shows that marriage after divorce has always been God's intent.

is it a self help book or like a study book on the topic. Sorry I'm a history nerd.

 

[ValleyGal]

It's a biblical study, looking at the historical context as well as linguistic context. Good study, and puts it into perspective of God's overall plan for mankind.

 

[Avniel]

It's a biblical study, looking at the historical context as well as linguistic context. Good study, and puts it into perspective of God's overall plan for mankind.

The books you give out always are interesting. I'm not looking to get a divorce but I don't know lately theology has really interesting to me. I think I'm all sociology booked out. You always give out the good books agree or disagree, they are always good reads.

 

[ValleyGal]

Thanks, I appreciate that. I never make a recommendation unless it is something that I have studied and put into practice as well as I can. The fact is, the information in DivorceHope is a composition of what I had learned already but did not know how to sort out and put together. This is the information that altered my whole faith construct, and made me realize that I had been taught "church" and not sound teaching. I had to rebuild my faith from scratch. So this book is one that I know is good because it was not part of my original study on divorce and remarriage, but it came much later and confirmed my own study.

 

[NothingIsImpossible]

I'd simply say do your research of course. There are many views on this subject and you really have to pray about which one you feels is the right one because ultimately we answer for all we do, even things we do that we assume were the right things. Or the wrong things.

 

[farout]

Here's one answer to the OP
http://www.divorcehope.com/stillmarriedafterdivorce.htm
The whole book is an interesting study, especially about remarriage. At first glance of a 21st century English Bible it appears remarriage is sin, but a deeper study shows that marriage after divorce has always been God's intent.

Could you please give some scripture to back "that after divorce it has always been God's intent." I am not in agreement with that. There are times remarriage is done as a sin. Considering a person who left their mate and divorced them and then remarried. That is never God's intent.

 

[NothingIsImpossible]

^That^
Its the first time I have heard someone say that was Gods intent. I'm not claiming to know whoever said that but sounds more like someone who searches online until they find a way to justify how their feeling by twisting the bible. I say this as someone who used to do that. BTW thats not pointed at VG, but at the person who wrote that article.

 

[Dave-W]

Re-marriage.Is this allowed or not?

Only under certain conditions:

Death of previous spouse
Marital infidelity of previous spouse
Abandonment by previous spouse.

 

[ValleyGal]

Could you please give some scripture to back "that after divorce it has always been God's intent." I am not in agreement with that. There are times remarriage is done as a sin. Considering a person who left their mate and divorced them and then remarried. That is never God's intent.

There is scripture to back up my assertion in the article I linked to. You are welcome to go and read it, then believe what you like.

 

[farout]

There is scripture to back up my assertion in the article I linked to. You are welcome to go and read it, then believe what you like.

Surely what the WORD says has the final and complete answer. No persons opinion is worth the spit it takes to say it. When we face the LORD He is who we answer to not someone with a thought.

 

[NothingIsImpossible]

The article says this is the verse:
“I say to the UNMARRIED and widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I [the Apostle Paul] am; but if they cannot exercise self-control, LET THEM MARRY. FOR IT IS BETTER TO MARRY THAN TO BURN WITH PASSION” (1Corinthians 7:8,9)

But if you look up that verse it varies depending on the bible you use. None the less its debated about the unmarried part is the original translation seem to imply widows only, not the unmarried. At past that I've read its not referring to those who are single again. Its why it doesn't say to the "unmarried, widowed and divorced". So even if someone is fine with the version the article says, it doesn't mention the divorced. Obviously this topic isn't mentioning what the remarriage is in regards to. So I'd say obviously being single is obvious. Being a widow is also obvious since your spouse died. But divorce does not allow for remarriage. Because you are still tied to that person in Gods eyes. Which is why many believe you shouldn't divorce in the first place. Having looked at multiple studies on the original text at no point does anyone say someone divorced can remarry.

Now many say "What about adultry?". Well heres an answer I find makes sense about adultery not being grounds for divorce (hence you cannot divorce for any reason):

It is unbiblical to teach that adultery is grounds for divorce, but not murder and a host of other sins. If adultery were Biblical grounds for divorce, then wouldn't also murder, lying, extortion, drunkenness, gambling, laziness, pornography, and a host of other sins also be considered as grounds for a divorce? Why the hypocrisy? Someone recently wrote me, saying that some sins are so obviously grounds for divorce that God didn't mention them (such as murder). However, the Word of God doesn't teach that. We mustn't add to God's Word. Jesus clearly taught in Matthew 19:8 that the only cause of divorce is a hardened heart. We read in Proverb 13:10, "Only by pride cometh contention..." A person who files for divorce only does so because of sinful pride and a hardened heart. If Jesus was willing to suffer for us, even unto death at Calvary, then why can't we endure the hardships of marriage and suffer as our Lord did?

That to me has always been my case. This life is temporal. So is marriage, pain, suffering...etc. So if someone is stuck in a nasty marriage, then it will end at some point and they will be free of pain. One person told me "Thats a sick view to have, the person should accept abuse then?". Well for starters the bible says that, I'm just the messenger. But I'd say if abuse should lead to divorce, then does that mean those who are in lots of pain and suffering from illness are free to commit suicide? Pain is pain right? Obviously most christians would say suicide is a sin and wrong. Like wise pain in a marriage has no means you have to suffer. Now, I am not saying thats fair of course. Its horrible really. Its not easy to even say you have to be stuck in it. But the bible makes it clear. Its why I look forward to being in heaven. I love being married of course, but death will mean I can be pain free, health problem free, free of those who ridicule me and make me feel like I shouldn't exist.

I hope that sheds some light on the subject. But if anyone disagrees I won't argue about it past this because the question was asked and I just want to share my total view on it. We are all allowed to disagree on things. We will only find out if we were right or wrong once we stand before God.

 

[Dave-W]

Now many say "What about adultry?". Well heres an answer I find makes sense about adultery not being grounds for divorce (hence you cannot divorce for any reason):

Adultery carried an immediate death sentence even in NT times. No need for divorce. See John 8.

Do you want to bring that back?