rape anniversary coming up

[Iliad]

Hi. I posted here before, and you guys really helped me a lot. More then I thought you would, thank you so much for that.

The two year anniversary of the day my ex-boyfriend first raped me is coming up, on the 20th. Last year I started getting really bad night terrors about it, reliving some of the times raped me in my dreams. For a while they went away and last night was the first night I've had one in several months. Last night I had been tossing and turning to such an extent that I threw myself off my bed before I woke up, and I have a queen-sized bed. Does anybody else have dreams like that? If so, how do you deal with them? Do they ever go away?

thanks.

 

[BrokenForHim]

aww hun ..yes I have had dreams like that..they are so awful..just pray, pray your heart out...think about something else don't think about the flashbacks...I'm not sure if they will ever go away but over time you will be able to deal with them...God is there for you he is waiting for you to call out to him for help...I'm here if you ever want to talk..your loved beautiful

 

[BigToe]

I don't know if the dreams ever go away forever. Eventually they become less frequent. One thing that helps me is to keep myself busy that day. I make plans with a friend I feel comfortable being with, but also feel comfortable telling what happened. I make sure they understand I may be in a horrible mood that day. What will make you feel best that day? If it is being with a friend all day, then make plans. If spending the day going to movie after movie is what will help, then do that.

 

[LazeyWinde]

*Hugs Iliad*
Lots of prayer of course. And perhaps sleeping with a stuffed animal and if you're up to it you can try Imagery Rehearsal Therapy.
http://www.guidetopsychology.com/dreams.htm#nightmares
IRT's where you write out a nightmare in as much detail as you can manage, then rewrite it again, keeping it as close to the original dream but change it somehow to make it peaceful. Then when you go to bed go over the rewritten dream in your head as close as you can to actually falling asleep and do some relaxation exercise like deep breathing. I understand that a night terror reliving something that actually happened is a bit harder than just any nightmare and can trigger flashbacks, but from what I've read it can really help.

 

[Amin]

Hi. I posted here before, and you guys really helped me a lot. More then I thought you would, thank you so much for that.

The two year anniversary of the day my ex-boyfriend first raped me is coming up, on the 20th. Last year I started getting really bad night terrors about it, reliving some of the times raped me in my dreams. For a while they went away and last night was the first night I've had one in several months. Last night I had been tossing and turning to such an extent that I threw myself off my bed before I woke up, and I have a queen-sized bed. Does anybody else have dreams like that? If so, how do you deal with them? Do they ever go away?

thanks.

Hi,
I hope things passed by and you were okay during this time.
Lord Bless You and keep you near.
Chuck.

 

[UnitynLove]

Praying for you sister.

 

[BigToe]

I hope the day wasnt horrible for you. How did it go? *hug* you ok today?