Shalom Wags,
Thank you for your participation!
About salvation in Jesus, I still don't get it. Before Jesus, Jews had access to heaven. But now they don't unless they believe in Jesus? How is that not a change in Hashem's plans?
About that, allow me to explain: The idea of milk and meat mixed together is that you should not use for death (in this case, cooking) what has been given for life (milk).
However, Judaism does make a difference between mitzvot d'oraitah (that which Hashem instructed), mitzvot d'rabanan (that which the sages agreed upon) and halakhah (the way to perform the mitzvot). And trust me, I'm even generalizing. Sometimes I get the feeling that Messianics put them all in the same bag and claim that the sages added to the written text of the Torah. However, the New Testament also interprets the Torah. Wouldn't that be an addition? If not, then why is the Talmud considered an addition? And what of the Neviim and Ketuvim? Wouldn't it be a double standard to single out the Talmud and say it is changing the Torah?
And about legalism, what makes something a legalistic practice? I would say that defining that thing as a matter of life and death, of being good or wicked, of going to gan eden or going to hell. But Judaism never said such thing about kashrut. Yes, the sages tell us to avoid poultry and milk. But no Jew is considered to be in a lower standing before his shül just because he ate a chicken cheeseburger. In fact, no matter what sin he may have committed (even if he's walked into a church, which in Judaism is one the greatest sins a Jew can commit), he can still be a ba'al tefillah, he counts for minyan, he can do aliyah and no-one is allowed by Jewish law to embarrass him because of his behavior.
You know how I would define Judaism?
Everyone has choices to make. Judaism is having the millennia-old experience of our sages to help us make the right choices.
Kol tov,
Fremen