I don't feel comfortable either - I guess it's more about being worried that something wasn't sacramental - as opposed to making presumptions, but I know what you mean.I really think these things we should leave to the mercy of God ladybug.
People are too quick to judge in these situations it seems to me.
I just don't feel comfortable with it.
Yeah, full knowledge is the key. I guess I may never know because she's not lucid enough to tell me. When I was young, she told me once that the Church refused to marry her and dad I was too young to care to know why. I'll never know if the Church told her why they wouldn't perform the ceremony but since that happened, they married in a non-Catholic Church I doubt that she got a dispensation if the Catholic Church declined to perform the ceremony...I don't want to make "assumptions," I'm just thinking "out loud."Your mom had to fully know that what she was doing was wrong, and still do it anyway, in order for it to be a mortal sin.
I agree completely with that.Your mom had to fully know that what she was doing was wrong, and still do it anyway, in order for it to be a mortal sin.
You don't have to sin mortally to be excommunicated - you guys keep saying that maybe people who leave the Church aren't sinning mortally. Maybe they aren't. But if they're participating in another church other than the Catholic one, having left the Catholic faith for it, they are still unable to receive the Sacraments until they confess.
Geez, that's all I'm saying. That is what excommunication is - not being able to receive the Sacraments because of some decision you made, whether a full-blown mortal sin, or lacking a bit in full knowledge/intent. If a person decides they aren't sure that premarital sex is wrong and sees no harm in it, and has premarital sex, they need to confess before receiving the Eucharist again regardless if they would like to participate in the Sacraments again.
The only reason I can think of the Church not marrying your parents is that there was not agreement to raise the children Catholic?Yeah, full knowledge is the key. I guess I may never know because she's not lucid enough to tell me. When I was young, she told me once that the Church refused to marry her and dad I was too young to care to know why. I'll never know if the Church told her why they wouldn't perform the ceremony but since that happened, they married in a non-Catholic Church I doubt that she got a dispensation if the Catholic Church declined to perform the ceremony...I don't want to make "assumptions," I'm just thinking "out loud."
what does the Catholic Church say about children from a non-sacramental marriage? I hear that they do NOT render such children illegitimate though, which is a good thing. It just feels weird, that's all.
No, they are not excommunicated now, nor were they excommunicated under the 1917 Code of Canon Law. Canon 2319 of the 1917 Code only applied if they were "married" by a Protestant minister, not a justice of the peace.If two lapsed Catholics (they were baptized as Catholics, but have since become "Agnostic.") are "married," by a secular Judge and outside of the Catholic Church. Are they just living in mortal sin or are they excommunicated as well?
what does the Catholic Church say about children from a non-sacramental marriage? I hear that they do NOT render such children illegitimate though, which is a good thing. It just feels weird, that's all.
Ok I will try not to worry about my mom. lol.Just because a marriage is not considered sacramental in the eyes of the Church, that does not mean that the marriage does not exist. Marriages can definitely be valid, but not sacramental. "Natural" is the term often applied. The children are NOT illegitimate. A lot of people get up in arms about that, especially with annulments. "Illegitimate" is a legal term - "Legit" being from "lex, legis" meaning "law". If children are products of marriages, they are always, always legitimate.
Don't worry about your mother. What is past is past. Everything will be fine.
If two lapsed Catholics (they were baptized as Catholics, but have since become "Agnostic.") are "married," by a secular Judge and outside of the Catholic Church. Are they just living in mortal sin or are they excommunicated as well?
No, they are not excommunicated now, nor were they excommunicated under the 1917 Code of Canon Law. Canon 2319 of the 1917 Code only applied if they were "married" by a Protestant minister, not a justice of the peace.
blah, I am confused to
"legal marriage" what does that mean? why do they have to get the marriage recognized by the Church?
You seem to be confusing "excommunication" (canon 1331 of the 1983 Code) with "being excluded from communion" (canons 915 and 916 of the 1983 Code).Absolutely false. Sorry.
me and my husband was married by a judged and we were two non practicing Catholics at the time and we indeed did not have a valid marriage what so ever, and we indeed did have to get married in the Church...
What the deacon told me when I was going through it, was you are not getting your marriage recognized or blessed, you are getting married for the first time.
JP marriages are mere civil unions and nothing more. they are not Christians marriages. One is not married in God's eyes.
I didn't write the Code of Canon Law - the Pope did. I'm just trying to explain how it works.You are being overly detailed and it's not necessary.
Excommunications can be formal, or they can be automatic. Either way, they prohibit the person from receiving any of the sacraments, not just the Holy Eucharist. That is why the excommunication must be lifted before the person can receive the sacrament of confession.Excommunication and being excluded from comunion is the same thing... no it's not a formal excommunication but so what? It's still ex communication ie you can't commune.