Hi everyone, hope you are all doing well. Well, my divorce was finallized last week, I just found out today when I called for the status of the case at court. I was a little sad, but in a way relieved that it's finally over. Well, I have a question. Have any of you that are divorced or soon to be divorced taken back your maiden name? I haven't really given it much thought but I would love to hear what you guys think. Thanks so much.
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Brotherfromanothermother
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It would seem to me that it's your life and if you'd be more comfortable
jettisoning the ex's last name then you should.
As a child that grew up with a mom with a different last name
I felt a little "different" but I understood why pretty much.
Would your children "identify" with him more and you less because of the difference?
jettisoning the ex's last name then you should.
As a child that grew up with a mom with a different last name
I felt a little "different" but I understood why pretty much.
Would your children "identify" with him more and you less because of the difference?
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eatenbylocusts
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I have two kids so I kept my married name which is funny because it's Hispanic and I'm not. I remember my friend telling me that she felt really bad in elementary school because her mom had a different name and apparently she was teased also. Probably not as much as an issue today.
I do hope to remarry and that would mean a name change for sure.
I do hope to remarry and that would mean a name change for sure.
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I plan to keep my married name. First, because it's my own childrens' last name, and second, because I'm a teacher. It's usually difficult for a teacher to change her name when hundreds of students already know the old one. It's almost as difficult for a teacher to change from Mrs. to Ms or Miss as it is to change the last name!
My MIL (also in education) has been divorced for 12 years, and happily remarried for five, but keeps the name of her second husband. It's the one she had when she earned her PhD, and left her mark in the collegiate world before retiring a couple of years ago.
My MIL (also in education) has been divorced for 12 years, and happily remarried for five, but keeps the name of her second husband. It's the one she had when she earned her PhD, and left her mark in the collegiate world before retiring a couple of years ago.
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I'm in the process of taking my maiden name back. I really don't need any reminders of him and my daughter's last name is my maiden name. I have almost all my ID changed and just have work left to do, which I'm embarrassed to change because I just changed it not long ago.
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Hmm this is an issue that has been plaugueing me. I huge part of me wants to take back my maiden name, Like its errasing his hold or claim on me. But the other part thinks its not a good move for the kids. My mum had a different surname growing up and it was a pain. and embarrassing at times. So I wanted to spare the kids that. But I guess if I ever was to remary my name would be different anyway so not sure what the right decison is here. I have another few mths to think about it anyway as here is Australia you have to be seperated a year before you can divorce.
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Thanks everyone for your feedback. I'm still unsure about what I will do, I'll have to give it some more prayer and though.
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I kept my married name because Ive had it for 27years'
I didnt want the hassle of changing drivers licsence, social security, house deed , bank name etc.
Plus who knows one day I might remarry and it will get changed then.
Hope this helps.
blessings
carol
I didnt want the hassle of changing drivers licsence, social security, house deed , bank name etc.
Plus who knows one day I might remarry and it will get changed then.
Hope this helps.
blessings
carol
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Idahofroggie
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I'm keeping my married name, at least for now. My kids both have that last name so I think it's just going to stay put. If, God help me, I ever decide to remarry, I would probably consider changing then.
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FLANDIDLYANDERS
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Ironically, I have a maiden name and I will be returning to it, despite my children all having their mothers name. The kids are in my custody for now, what import is a name? Also, my assport is in my maiden name, so id have to change my name by deedpole just to stay with my ex's name.
No thanks!
No thanks!
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