Question

[GreyWolf]

Hey. I want to give my support to every woman here who has gone through an abortion, - Jesus will heal anything.

I am going to go out on a limb here and ask a favor. I hope no one is offended or think its inappropriate. I was wondering if anyone would be willing to share with me about the counseling you recieved at the abortion clinic. It is for a project I am doing. Were you satisfied with it, did you wish they gave you more information, etc. I am hoping that this project will help other women who are considering abortion and be a good resource for anyone on the issue. Please pm me or post if you are willing to talk to me.

I apologize if I've done wrong by asking. Please only respond if it won't upset you.

 

[mourningdove~]

Hey. I want to give my support to every woman here who has gone through an abortion, - Jesus will heal anything.

I am going to go out on a limb here and ask a favor. I hope no one is offended or think its inappropriate. I was wondering if anyone would be willing to share with me about the counseling you recieved at the abortion clinic. It is for a project I am doing. Were you satisfied with it, did you wish they gave you more information, etc. I am hoping that this project will help other women who are considering abortion and be a good resource for anyone on the issue. Please pm me or post if you are willing to talk to me.

I apologize if I've done wrong by asking. Please only respond if it won't upset you.

I, too, hope your project will help women that are considering abortion.
Women truly do need to be informed when making this decision.
Sadly, many are not.

"Kudos" to you, GreyWolf, for taking on this project!

 

[blvrnchrist]

GreyWolf, I know your original post was some time ago, and am surprised to see you got little if no response. I am new to the site, and would like to share with you.

I had an abortion several years ago and am just starting to really deal with and recover from it. I think I am walking through the grieving steps though, because I am now on anger...anger at the clinic and the so called counselors.

I talked with someone for about 10 minutes before they reassured me I was doing the right thing...I didn't even think I was doing the right thing...but felt no other option...felt only helpless and hopeless.

Counselors in those clinic unfortunately are trained to determine what is driving the women to this choice and then hone in on it and SUPPORT and INTENSIFY it!!! IF it's financial shortfalls, they will remind you how much it costs to have and raise a baby. If it is lack of family support, they will focus on how much energy and sleepless nights you will have without support and how drained you will be.

Whatever your reason is for being there, they are trained to exasperate it. Additionally, there is no counseling available after the 'procedure'...just recover and leave...on your own.

They tell you about the relief you will feel, and you do, for a very short time, they forget to tell you about the grief and shame that lock in for years to come and affect every part of your life.

NO...they are not counselors. Counselors have your best interest at heart, not thier boss's, or thier pocket books.

Sorry for my intensity...they are also lost individuals as well, and I do pray that God reaches them. But I would not ever call it counseling.

good luck, I hope you reach and help many women scammed by the "right to chose".

 

[New Creation]

I agree with the previous poster. A counsellor has your best interests at heart including your spiritual well being.

I had an abortion at 17 and I remember the "counselling" lady writing down on the form that having the baby would cause me undue mental distress. She just checked that box without even asking me. It was standard getting aroung the red tape. The women at the planned parenthood clinic did nothing to help me except to help me have the abortion. My parents did not even have to know and this was over 20 years ago.

I have read online from a former abortion provider that when women are met by sidewalk counsellors at clinics, many of them do not have the abortion- as opposed to picketers- who just anger them.

HOpe this helps. I'll answer any more questions if it helps more.

 

[inhisimage73]

I had the same experience....they didn't tell me how much this was going to wreck my life. They didn't tell me it was going to physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally hurt. It was very non-chalaunt (sp?), no big deal...they must have become numb to the whole thing. I imagine we were like cattle in line to the slaughter...it's very disturbing. I received ZILTCH counseling immediately after or even later. I felt relief after...my problem was solved...until the guilt set in.

Now I see, the love I would have received from my baby would have been a whole better choice, than living with the guilt, condemnation, and anxiety that I suffered under for many years. Abortion is a very wicked wicked thing.

 

[Pepperoni]

I did not get counseling either--before or after--and to be honest I can't say I would have listened. My mind was made up and I knew what I had to do (or felt like I had to do). In fact, I remember hoping they wouldn't try and talk me out of it.

I totally agree with the comment about picketers just angering women. That is true. Same with pictures of aborted babies.

When I read this comment "I imagine we were like cattle in line to the slaughter" by inhisimage . . . it probably was like that. It was probably just another day to them. I have to say that at least I was in a doctor's office, and I don't think anyone else was even there. I don't remember any other patients being there anyway.

I'll also say this (slightly off-topic, sorry! I need to rename myself the off-topic queen!), that the physical pain was also a little more than I was prepared for. That was probably the most surprising thing of all for me.