Question

[spidey42]

Hi guys,

i'm new here and ive been reading around a lot and seen some really good advice. I've been dating my girlfriend for 2 years and a couple months now and i love her! .. anyways, i read a bunch of posts about being in a "God-centred relationship" (i had never heard those words before coming here). Me and my girlfriend dont pray together, well not alone. Can we still be in a god-centered relationship if we dont?? My mom advises against doing it because it is something special and intimate between two people, and there are concerns that it could lead to other things, and that it is something special that maybe should be saved for the one youre going to marry.

we still talk about spiritual stuff sometimes and go to church together, and we both used to be in a worship band before a new piano player took over.

but i was wondering if you guys think that we could still be in a god-centered relationship if we dont pray and read the bible together, but do it on our own. ive been praying about it, but just wanted to hear what you guys think

 

[Warrior Poet]

But of course.
I was raised that your relationship was a very personal thing. My parents raised me to walk the walk and let that do the talk, if you follow. I read my Bible different then most, I think, and I am not sure wether my SO would enjoy reading off a monitor over my shoulder while I cut, paste, and search. I have never been in a relationship where I felt that I could openly pray with a person. I have had many a female friends that I would gladly pray with but it is a heavy and intimate step to take, if you think that way, I happen too, and I think your mom does too.
But it is not your mom's call it is yours, and two years is a good amount of time. It more so hinges on the "are-you-both-ready-for-that-step" kinda deal.
As I said I think my relationship is highly personal, some things are meant to stay between me and God, no matter how much I may love this person.
So a long winded answer would spur a yes from my corner.


Warrior Poet

 

[jarrol]

wow

My SO and i have made a committment to pray together before we say goodbye... in a manner of committing our time we've spent together and our lives apart to God.

It's the most special part of our relationship... it's special, but it's nessessary - if u aren't comfortable to pray with someone then how will u instantly be able to if u marry? Get into the habbit early, and commit the whole relationship to God.

 

[wolfiswill]

You've been in a relationship for two years. That is definitely enough time to figure out whether or not you are goona eventually get married. Praying is an intimate thing and it will take the relationship deeper but your relationship has to be ready for that. There is such a thing as going deeper too quick, but I don't think you have any thing to worry about.

 

[Iggster]

The couple that prays together, stays together. Praying for your SO in front of her can be the most genuine thing a person can do for the one he loves. I don't see anything wrong with lifting her up to the Lord and asking the Lord to make her burdens light. How would you feel if she uplifted you to the Lord during troubled times? Doesn't that show she really cares and loves you?

 

[TJMan2050]

I think its important to pray, obviously everybody is of different opinions about when is it appropriate to pray with an SO, I think that its important to start early if it is a serious relationship, because of course you need to see how each other cares about you, but more importantly where they are at with God. My opinion is that I wouldn't pray together that a relationship lasts or continues or whatever because that is intimate, I instead choose to pray that we both make the right decisions according to his will whether or not that means staying together. But God-centered relationships don't have to include prayer, but I think it is a very important thing in marriage, and like Jarrol said, how are you going to instantly do it when your married? yeah, God Bless

 

[jarrol]

i was just thinking.... kissing is a personal thing... and it can lead to many tempations...

...how many of you are willing to kiss your gf/bf but are not comfortable to pray with them?

maybe you need to think about your motives?

 

[skinnybrad]

hey i like that one Jarrol you kick butt with the comments buddy

 

[fluffy_rainbow]

I think praying together is a good thing; however, be careful spending too much time alone doing it. Many Christian couples have succumbed to sexual temptation while praying alone together for an extensive period of time. I find a wonderful thing to do is study the Bible together. You don't even have to be in each other's presence to do this. Instead, choose a particular passage or book of the Bible you want to know more about and set goals. Then swap notes and share with each other what you've learned.

 

[fluffy_rainbow]

Oh! And welcome to CF.com. I hope this site will be a blessing to you

 

[tulipbeliever]

I agree with a lot of you on here in your ways of thinking on this subject. It is amazing to know that I can sit down and pray for and with my beau. With him being a pastor it helps him to teach me things, and reinerate things. To hear him lifting our relationship up to his Father is soo encouraging and supporting. We always seek out a spot that will not be a hinderance to our praying for we believe that God will send angels of protection to us as long as we are honoring God. And let's not forget that where two or more are gathered there He is (can you think of anything better to fight evil than God himself?). Can you have a God honoring relationship and not pray together or study together? I personally don't believe so. I believe that you need to give the entire relationship over to God right from the beginning and trust in the fact that God will sustain it for His duration. He will grow and conform the both of you and your relationship (this is a promise that is found in scripture (Romans 8:29-30). Can you imagine the feeling of God conforming your relationship and not being able to take hands with the other person and fall at the Fathers feet seeking strength to perservere? I can for I have been there. and I am extrememly thankful to God for bringing me to the place of understanding that I need Him and that my relationship needs Him and is in fact not complete without Him in this area. It is definently a blessing from God Himself!

 

[jarrol]

hey i like that one Jarrol you kick butt with the comments buddy

hey dude thanks... nothing special from me hey... i guess i see prayer as the central focus of our relationship with Christ... it's how we communicate with God... so if we're sharing our lives with a SO then shouldn't that communication be the most important thing in our seperate and corporate lives?

And it's coming from me, who doesn't feel right kissing my g/f yet - but would never hesitate to pray with her... so the whole prayer leading into temptation thing sounds stupid to me.

How can prayer turn into sexual sin? i don't understand that.