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I really feel that the only way I can really answer that question is yes to both. I am happy but do long for something more. Society has gotten it in my head that marraige is the climax of life and that everything will be super once that happens. But reality checks have made me happy to be single and enjoy the time I have to grow on my own with God
 
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revelations12_12 said:
Are you happy being single or do you long for a relationship?

If you answer the former, was it always like this, or did you go through a long period missing companionship?

Well honestly it depends, because if I see other couples while I am out I begin to miss those feelings. Then again, there's less worries and stuff when you're not with anyone. Because you are always trying to be considerate to that other person you are with, so somtimes you get drained.

The longest I have gone w/out companionship was about 3 years or so, and those feelings of lonliness did pop up from time to time. Then again I kept myself really busy, which is where I am headed once again.

Not sure if that's what you were looking for, but it's what I have to offer.

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revelations12_12 said:
Are you happy being single or do you long for a relationship?

If you answer the former, was it always like this, or did you go through a long period missing companionship?

I am happy being single and always have been. I need friends - and I get lonely for companionship (in the form of friendship) if I don't have friends around. But I don't feel the need for a romantic relationship at this point, nor have I at any point in the past.
 
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revelations12_12 said:
Are you happy being single or do you long for a relationship?

If you answer the former, was it always like this, or did you go through a long period missing companionship?

Well, it's really a very tough question for me to answer and I had been asking myself the similiar question for the past months. As it is, it's still the Chinese New Year season and it's a time to meet up with some relatives and family friends where you'll be asked when will you be getting married. Oh boy, how tired am I with this question....:sick:

Personally, I'm very happy :D being single now and I enjoy every moments of my time. Look at the job I'm engaged with or the field I'm into, it's really hard to have a relationship as my kind of job requires me to stand by and I need to go back to work once a phone call comes sometimes. After being in relationships in the past, it's very difficult for me to work long hours at times. When it comes to certain decision making, I find it real hard to decide when I'm engaged in a relationship.

On the other side, when I started to look around and see so many couples around me, I do want to be in a relationship myself. In fact, I had a crush with a friend and I'm surprised myself. I know there's no possibility for me but I do wish on one hand.

In conclusion, what I say about myself would be that I long for a relationship, I long for someone to hug me and be with me, yet I'm so comfortable being single...
 
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VivDaGurl said:
In conclusion, what I say about myself would be that I long for a relationship, I long for someone to hug me and be with me, yet I'm so comfortable being single...

I have this same problem, these are the times we feel intensly alone. I too am to the point I am very comfortable being single but then I remeber how wonderful it was to feel love, and give love.
 
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revelations12_12 said:
I have this same problem, these are the times we feel intensly alone. I too am to the point I am very comfortable being single but then I remeber how wonderful it was to feel love, and give love.

That's exactly what I feel too! *high 5*

I wonder how long more do I have to wait at times....:sigh:
 
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I love my single being.
I mean, it might be that mr. right shows up one day, or maybe not. but for now, it's perfect how it is, I wouldn't wanna change!

as for the other question. I had times when I longed for a relationship. But somehow I now realize what I would have to give up for that, and at the moment, I don't wanna give up all the freedom I have. For me it's important being myself. And until I figured who I really am, there is no room for someone else.
 
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When I was younger, I was desperate for companionship and someone to love and love me back. I met somebody and it was wonderful for a while, but ended and now I couldn't be happier. Everytime I've thought, "Hmm, am I missing something?" and tried to date someone, it's felt really wrong no matter how nice they are or how well we get along. I do look forward to settling someday, though, when I'm ready.
 
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revelations12_12 said:
Are you happy being single or do you long for a relationship?

If you answer the former, was it always like this, or did you go through a long period missing companionship?

Well, I'm not happy to be single, but I can still deal with it. And yes, I do long for a relationship, but am not desperate for one, if that makes any sense. I mean...I have several opportunities presenting themselves to me for new relationships, but I just don't want to just swoop in to just ANY relationship. So I guess I long for that good, QUALITY relationship that can really go the distance.

As far as whether or not it was always like this? Nope. It only started after I had a taste of what it was like to have someone of my very own, which was about 2 years ago when I entered my first relationship.
 
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theophilus05 said:
I am content with whatever I am given. 1 Tim 6:6 Godliness with contentment is great gain.

That's a great thought, Matt, but some people just don't have the ability to be content even though they know perfectly well that they should be. It's like you can rain down that message on them 24 hours a day yet they still whine and complain, just a whole lotta murmuring. It's sad.
 
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revelations12_12 said:
Are you happy being single or do you long for a relationship?

If you answer the former, was it always like this, or did you go through a long period missing companionship?

For the most part, I am content with my singleness. Sure, I get frustrated every now and again (usually brought on by something having to attend a wedding, etc. ) but I get over it because dwelling on it serves no purpose but to further the enemy's plan of discouragement.

Its like what Job (Job 2:9-10) said during his trial. If we question God's judgement/timing about why the bad things that happen to us, then we have to also question God about why the good things happened?" You just have to rest in the fact that is God's perfect timing not yours. :)

Plus, I look at it this way - I've tried getting companionship my way/timing and look where it got me....alone. LOLOLOL So its best if I just wait on the Father, who knows all and has my best interest at heart.

I am someone that's use to having companionship (My last serious relationship was probably 2 years ago) so this is the longest I have gone without. But even with all the ups, downs, trials, and victories, I have enjoyed this time alone because I am CONSTANTLY getting to know me a LOT better. Not to mention I have grown in Christ tremendously too! :)

So have faith my brothers and sisters. This period of singleness is only as bad as you make it. :) Use this time wisely for there will come a day (Lord willing) where you will LONG for these days again - ask any married person. LOL
 
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revelations12_12 said:
Are you happy being single or do you long for a relationship?
Very happy to be single.
revelations12_12 said:
If you answer the former, was it always like this, or did you go through a long period missing companionship?
I went through a long period with various forms of companionship, which made me realize that being single was better, considering the talent that's available, and my own shortcomings.
 
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I am a bit of both. I long at times with deepest longings to chersish a precious woman whom I can relate to and yet at other times I am so close to God that emotional longings cant get any where near me.
 
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