Before you started courting/dating your SO, were you "just friends" with them beforehand? And how long were you "just friends" before y'all decided to start courting/dating?
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Question to courting couples
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FiRePrOoF_bUnNy
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I was friends with my b/f for about 5months beforehand.....he was new to our church, so i started speaking to him more as our personalities seemed to click ...helps sooo much that hes a christian !!
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...butterfly...
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My SO and I were friends for 3 yrs before we started dating...we met at a Christian camp and lost touch for about a year or so, b'cause he moved. Well I finally tracked him down through internet phone number searches and such...and I called him. We began an over the phone friendship for about a year and then started dating after that. The first year of our relationship was long distance
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unjustwar
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friends first but it was a good and bad thing. The good thing was that we knew everything about each other going in. The bad thing is their was too must passion and held back emotions to begin with which made sexual temptation pretty bad.
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PurpleBunny
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Chris and I started out as friends 'cause we met online. We started dating a year after we met in person, two years after we met online.
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lanajean1126
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My boyfriend and I were not really friends first. We started dating/courting pretty quickly and soon after became best friends. I wish we would have been friends first because some times hormones got in the way when there wasn't anything to talk about. Things worked out though and I am thankful for that. When we first started dating we didn't know eachothers morals, beliefs, or anything! We were fortunate that God was watching us and finally got us on the right path.
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Lizzi4Christ
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Nope. We knew each other because we were involved with the same ministry. But we weren't friends. One day he asked me to a movie, but not as a date. We hung out about three weeks when he told me that he liked me.
I don't three weeks is long enough to be "just friends", lol.
I don't three weeks is long enough to be "just friends", lol.
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me and my boyfriend were good friends for about a year before we started going out. we kinda had to be coz he went out with my best friend first!
personally i'm extremely grateful that we had the chance to become friends before we started going out. i think that's the most important part of any romantic relationship. my b/f and my bestfriend went out without making a solid friendship foundation first and they completely fell apart because of that. i know that if we hadn't been friends first then that would've happened to us too.
if you don't have a solid foundation (friendship) then what do you have to build on? kinda like the whole 'wise man builds his house on a rock' thing.
personally i'm extremely grateful that we had the chance to become friends before we started going out. i think that's the most important part of any romantic relationship. my b/f and my bestfriend went out without making a solid friendship foundation first and they completely fell apart because of that. i know that if we hadn't been friends first then that would've happened to us too.
if you don't have a solid foundation (friendship) then what do you have to build on? kinda like the whole 'wise man builds his house on a rock' thing.
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Screamin'Eagle
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hmmm lets see how to explain. Well we were friends for like 3 months and she let me know she was into me, but at the time i was pretty immature and messed everything up. And we absolutly hated each other for about a year and barely talked and both moved on to different relationships. Well we both broke up with the people we were with and started talking again looking to rebound with each other and realized hey we love each other and been together for about 7 months now...so yeah thats pretty crazy i know 
strange how things work out.
strange how things work out.
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Spoilt Victorian Child
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Friends for about a year, and we have dated for six months. The fruits of building our romance on a friendship were gaining momentum during that unsteady transition, and now it is something amazing indeed.
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ardeur
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We were friends for 2 years before dating/courting. We were pretty close as friends. We took a while before we started holding hands or showing any other sort of physical affection (according to his friends), but that came naturally and it feels like we've been together for a much longer time than our 5 months.
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Music4Hym777
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We were friends for about 6 months before we started courting, then we courted for 6 months before he slipped the engagement ring on my finger. Now, we have another 1.5yrs before the wedding!
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Ceris
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lionman said:
We were "just friends" for about all of . . . 5 minutes.
What can I say, we were just instantly attracted to each other and clicked. Do I regret it and wish it could be the other way? Not at all!
I first told my gf that I "am romantically interested in you and wish to pursue you" about 1.5 months after meeting her, but I think she kinda knew by then. Still remember that moment very vividly. Slow me though - I didn't kiss her until a month after that (really long distance at the time).
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halifaxhoney
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We were co-workers and I mentioned I thought he was cute when I was around some friends and it was mentioned to him. We became fast friends and then decided to be exclusive.
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Sascha Fitzpatrick
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Oh gee, this SO not a one sentence answer...
here goes:
Met in January 2002
Started dating 'officially' in April 2002
Broke up in July 2002
Pseudo dating between July 2002 - August 2003 (I think - this also included the time I moved into his place from December 2002 - November 2004).
Had a clean break from August 2003-September 2004.
Around October in 2004, I started noticing how much this guy (who I basically couldn't stand as anything more than a friend) had grown and changed and decided to watch how this developed. I didn't want him to be doing it as an attempt to win me back, and I didn't want to rush back into things and be hurt again. I watched him until April 2004.
In April, there was this really good sermon at church, and it made me think about B, and whether a healthy relationship was possible, and if it could lead to marriage. I started talking to a really close friend from church about this, and she suggested maybe it was time to talk to B about this.
I did, and anyway he listened to me, and after lots of prayer, we decided that September 2004 would be the time we would address our relationship once and for all.
That 4 months was VERY hard! But, it was a great time of discovery too. We learnt heaps about each other, we asked each other LOTS of questions as to goals, ideals, beliefs and upbringing, and started learning more about each other than we ever had in the 2.5 years before that!
We started dating again in September 2004, and we will be married sometime between April and May next year...
Sasch
here goes:
Met in January 2002
Started dating 'officially' in April 2002
Broke up in July 2002
Pseudo dating between July 2002 - August 2003 (I think - this also included the time I moved into his place from December 2002 - November 2004).
Had a clean break from August 2003-September 2004.
Around October in 2004, I started noticing how much this guy (who I basically couldn't stand as anything more than a friend) had grown and changed and decided to watch how this developed. I didn't want him to be doing it as an attempt to win me back, and I didn't want to rush back into things and be hurt again. I watched him until April 2004.
In April, there was this really good sermon at church, and it made me think about B, and whether a healthy relationship was possible, and if it could lead to marriage. I started talking to a really close friend from church about this, and she suggested maybe it was time to talk to B about this.
I did, and anyway he listened to me, and after lots of prayer, we decided that September 2004 would be the time we would address our relationship once and for all.
That 4 months was VERY hard! But, it was a great time of discovery too. We learnt heaps about each other, we asked each other LOTS of questions as to goals, ideals, beliefs and upbringing, and started learning more about each other than we ever had in the 2.5 years before that!
We started dating again in September 2004, and we will be married sometime between April and May next year...
Sasch
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AngylBelle
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Hmmm...well we were aquaintances for 13 years, I moved away for 5 of them...returned for college, we went out as friends a few times, went on a date within a week of my returning, we became a couple a week after that and we have been together for almost 2 years and are looking ahead to marriage in the next year.
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Peace
Well, we met each other approximately 2 years ago, it was a serie of events that lead our paths to cross and we started to date for a couple of months before we felt that this was something special. Since then, we said we were a couple...
Well, we met each other approximately 2 years ago, it was a serie of events that lead our paths to cross and we started to date for a couple of months before we felt that this was something special. Since then, we said we were a couple...
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