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Question for you all (guys expecially)

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we held hands like 2-3 weeks after we started dating, we hugged when we first started dating, and we kissed like a month after dating?!?! i can't remember because it was so awesome of a night when you have your first kiss with someone you realllllllly like
 
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I kissed Chris after our first date, but we'd been "seeing" each other online for about two weeks... our relationship was intellectually based, interestingly enough, and not started due to the way a lot of the online "relationships" I was familiar with had started (ie, cybersex). We started off attracted to one another's minds and there wasn't a physical component to our relationship at all until we met.

But then, with my various insecurities, we took things a little too fast. I"m kind of glad that we've slowed things down now that the wedding is approaching... I'm looking forward to things heating up again in, oh, about 22 days! LOL

But not being so physical has a lot of positives... we get to focus on being ourselves and just enjoying one another's company. Not that we haven't always been like that, but it's been nice these past few months, and the physical aspects of our relationship that we DO indulge in (kissing, snuggling, hugging, etc.) have been much nicer as well.
 
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Hmm, well I met mine online through Skillet's fanclub so we naturally had a friendhip beforehand, then started calling each other every night till we decided to meet up. Hugged as soon as we met in the airport, held hands the first night, had my arm around her shoulders the first night. Waited on the kiss till the second night at the perfect moment (twas her first kiss). Mind you, we were perfectly comfortable with each other from the moment we met. Not everyone is like this and their experience may differ extremely.

Also, I do not see a greeting hug as something intimate (though ours could have been considered it for it lingered many moments.;) ). When I was in Aussie, everyone I greeted was with a hug. I just grew acoustomed to it and it's now how I greet most people. I don't see anything bad with it as a lot of american xians do. And I also find the idea of "side hugging" rediculasly humourous.

CJ
 
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Six months before we hugged, seven months before we held hands, haven't kissed yet. We're abnormal, though: neither of us are touchy people, and we knew each other for awhile before we started dating, so a lot of the six months was transformation from "friends" to "couple".
 
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My boyfriend and I were already hanging out and doing things together like a couple would before we actually "became" a couple, except for physical things. But shortly before we officially began dating, we would hug good-bye, and one time he put his arm around me while we were sitting on the couch. On what we call our first "real" date, after I said yes to being his girlfriend, we kissed while sitting in the movies, and it was great, especially since he'd already asked me a few days earlier if he could kiss me, but I told him no because I wasn't ready. And holding hands with him- one of my favorite things to do! :D
 
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I remember my bf and I kissed for the first time on our third official "date". We hugged before that... i guess on our first date (which was a dance). We knew each other before we started dating though. I can't remember when we started holding hands... I think it was also on our first date. :)
 
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Memory's a bit rusty on hugging (I think our first one was while we were just friends) and holding hands (which I think was on our last time together before we consciously decided to begin the relationship), but the first kiss between my g/f and I was on our first official "date", and boy, was I nervous about it? ^_^
 
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Well I've literally JUST started dating a guy I've been in a relationship with before. This time round we were at a gig and all dancing together doing some kind of kicky thing with our arms around each others waists and he just kept it there. We've not actually held hands and we kissed each other good night and THEN he text me and suggested prehaps we should start dating again. Not one of my finest moments!
 
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Well, I'm not actually dating at the moment, but one of my good guy friends and I started hanging out a lot this last February and the rest of the semester. I'm pretty sure that we hugged when we met three years ago when I started school. But that's cause I hug pretty much all of my friends when I greet them and say goodbye to them. We haven't actually held hands yet, just in a prayer circle (doesn't count) and we nearly kissed right before he left for Macedonia for a summer mission trip. I stopped that before that happened because we're not officially a couple. He did however send me flowers today, and he's still in Macedonia!! I was really excited and still am surprised! This is only the second time I've gotten flowers from a boy and the first time was for our one year anniversery, this was for no particular reason, just "to help make my day more amazing"! How romantic is that!? :)
 
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My fiance and I met online... we were "together" virtually from the night we met, the connection was that strong that quickly....

A week later, we met in person for the first time. I believe we hugged the first day we met in person, and we were holding hands on the 2nd day we'd been together in person.

We didn't kiss until 4 months after we'd first met. We were officially engaged by then, and had been for over a week.

Blessings :)
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dating in america seems to be soooo different from dating in britain. in fact we dont really "date" as such. I got together with my SO one night at a fireworks party, we went for a walk and he kissed me. It was very romantic. After that we started to get to know each other better (we were barely aquaintances before). We knew that we liked each other before the kiss, so the kiss just kinda sealed the neginning of our dating period. 3 weeks later he sent me a text saying "im so happy you're my g/f".... I was like wot? am i?! but i didnt have any objections so we continued the way we were.

I hold hands with all my friends though so its really not an issue.

But yeah, I don't think theres any hard and fast rules about wots right/wrong. Just do wot you feel comfortable with. If you dont want to kiss on your first date then dont. You'll find that holding hands, or kissing/hugging will come naturally (although dont do everything that feels natural!!! you'll end up gonig too far as nature takes its course!).
 
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christiankate said:
Hi all,
I was just curious about how many dates in did you and your SO go on before, hold hands, hugging and kissing? Just curious, thanks in advance

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First, we don't date in the conventional sense. Second, we were friends for a long time before courting. We began holding hands about the same time our courtship began. We have never kissed and won't until we're standing on the altar. Hugging....I like it too much. :p Physical contact is a huge stumbling block for me especially, so we avoid it.

~Spurling
 
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