Question for the ladies

[Beautiful Fireball]

Do you like taking your guy out or paying for things while out? Or do you think that the guy should be the one to pay? Why? Ok, ignore the title, this is no longer just for girls, lol. Guys what do you think about your gf paying? Do you like it when she does?

I'll give my thoughts later

 

[Gardener101]

Do you like taking your guy out or paying for things while out? Or do you think that the guy should be the one to pay? Why? Ok, ignore the title, this is no longer just for girls, lol. Guys what do you think about your gf paying? Do you like it when she does?

I'll give my thoughts later

Whilst I like paying for dates when I can...I think the guy should always be the one to pay for dates during the initial stages (before they become committed)...even if she was the one to ask him out.

 

[BeautifulDestiny09]

when we first started dating, he always paid...and then sometimes I'd by him things...but as time went by, we went dutch, or sometimes I'd pay, especially when he was out of work for a little bit...and when he got a new job, I took him out to celebrate...beyond that, it depends on the date!

 

[Paddington]

Me and my boyfriend take each other out and pay for stuff about equally and we always appreciate it from the other. I don't necessarily think the guy should be the one to pay for everything at the beginning of the relationship, if he wants to then that's fine and very nice but I wouldn't want him to feel he *had* to.

 

[Monaleezza]

Depends!
Sometimes my purse is in the car so he pays. Sometimes he'd have to go to the cash machine, so I just pay.
It's as and when really.
But generally he likes to take care of me.
What I do in return is treat him to things by buying him gifts in advance or taking responsibility completely for an anniversary or for a birthday or something.
Do what works as long as you don't forget your biblical gender roles.

 

[Aibrean]

I pay when it's my idea

 

[Gardener101]

Me and my boyfriend take each other out and pay for stuff about equally and we always appreciate it from the other. I don't necessarily think the guy should be the one to pay for everything at the beginning of the relationship, if he wants to then that's fine and very nice but I wouldn't want him to feel he *had* to.

I agree, but I want to set a precedent for spiritual leadership in the relationship.

That's my excuse anyway

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

I fail to see how paying equals spiritual leadership. But then again, I don't believe in one having headship over the other either.

 

[Gardener101]

I fail to see how paying equals spiritual leadership. But then again, I don't believe in one having headship over the other either.

It's hard to explain hun. It's like...by paying at the beginning of the relationship...he is sorta in control...he is leading...then he gets used to leading..then it becomes a mental/spiritual leadership.

I believe in equality in many aspects of life and relationships, however I believe a man should be the spiritual head of his family. Some men are not good at taking that responsibility and this is my way to gently help them take charge

 

[LongLegs]

Do you like taking your guy out or paying for things while out? Or do you think that the guy should be the one to pay? Why? Ok, ignore the title, this is no longer just for girls, lol. Guys what do you think about your gf paying? Do you like it when she does?

I'll give my thoughts later

Sorry.... But YOU asked...... It's very simple:

When dating, the man should always pay for everything.

This is true for the first date, and for the 100th date and beyond.

I will not date ANY guy who will not pay for everything, pick me up where I will be, and try to do the things I want on the date.

In turn, he gets a fantastic woman to be with!

Kathy

 

[ImperialPhantom]

Sorry.... But YOU asked...... It's very simple:

When dating, the man should always pay for everything.

This is true for the first date, and for the 100th date and beyond.

I will not date ANY guy who will not pay for everything, pick me up where I will be, and try to do the things I want on the date.

In turn, he gets a fantastic woman to be with!

Kathy

Which explains why you're single.

 

[Aibrean]

and try to do the things I want on the date.

now thats a bit scary

 

[somethingBEAUTIFUL]

My boyfriend generally pays for me around 75%-80% of the time, I would say. He enjoys doing it and taking care of me, so I let him. But if he pays for dinner, I almost always leave the tip. And then if we're perhaps going to a movie or to get ice cream after eating, I'll pay for that. We haven't been dating a really long time, but I have taken him out a couple of times and taken care of all the night's expenses. And then there have been times he hasn't had very much cash, and so I've paid for myself.
I think we have it all worked out pretty well though. Also, I don't think it would be fair for him to pay for everything, all of the time. I work and earn money as well for one thing. And me offering to pay at times is a way for me to show my gratitude towards him.

 

[LongLegs]

Which explains why you're single.

Trust me .... I'm single by choice!

Kathy

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

Generally in my past relationships the guy has paid for more stuff than I have, but I do think it is good to try and be equal in who pays for what and to find things both of you enjoy doing.

If one takes on a "my way or the highway/me me me!" attitude that's not conducive to a healthy relationship. It is important that both people exhibit altruism. Healthy relationships are give and take, not lopsided where one person gets all the benefits and the other person has basically has no self worth and lets their boyfriend or girlfriend walk all over them.

 

[Blank123]

meh a relationship is a two way thing. I always greatly appreciate it when he pays but its by no means expected of him. When i pay i'm always very happy to

 

[DeathMagus]

Sorry.... But YOU asked...... It's very simple:

When dating, the man should always pay for everything.

This is true for the first date, and for the 100th date and beyond.

Why?

I will not date ANY guy who will not pay for everything, pick me up where I will be, and try to do the things I want on the date.

In turn, he gets a fantastic woman to be with!

Why isn't being with a fantastic guy enough for you? Why does he have to pay for everything as well? Or do you merely believe that no man could ever be as fantastic as you?

Basically, you're locking yourself into an extremely unhealthy relationship, in which your boyfriend will be little more than your slave.

To answer the OP, we generally paid based on who asked the other out on the date. Now that we've been together for a long time, we pay based on who is strapped for cash less.

 

[LongLegs]

Why?


Why isn't being with a fantastic guy enough for you? Why does he have to pay for everything as well? Or do you merely believe that no man could ever be as fantastic as you?

I usually do pretty well in picking my men, but the pickings can be very slim for someone with my standards.

Basically, you're locking yourself into an extremely unhealthy relationship, in which your boyfriend will be little more than your slave.

How in the world can you say this is an unhealthy relationship????? Hello ..... I have great relationships with guys who pay for everything! What is unhealthy is to get stuck with some Momma's boy who wants me to take care of him ..... Trust me, he gets dropped like a hot potato!!!

To answer the OP, we generally paid based on who asked the other out on the date. Now that we've been together for a long time, we pay based on who is strapped for cash less.

Hey, I can choose who I date, and I don't date men who can't pay my way.

Kathy

 

[JadeTigress]

Sorry.... But YOU asked...... It's very simple:

When dating, the man should always pay for everything.

This is true for the first date, and for the 100th date and beyond.

I will not date ANY guy who will not pay for everything, pick me up where I will be, and try to do the things I want on the date.

In turn, he gets a fantastic woman to be with!

Kathy

Wow, sounds a little selfish to me...

Anyway, when my bf and I go out, I always pay for my stuff, and he pays for his. He always wants to pay for me, but I never let him.

 

[Blank123]

Sorry.... But YOU asked...... It's very simple:

When dating, the man should always pay for everything.

This is true for the first date, and for the 100th date and beyond.

I will not date ANY guy who will not pay for everything, pick me up where I will be, and try to do the things I want on the date.

In turn, he gets a fantastic woman to be with!

Kathy

sounds like someone is looking to pull another Anna Nicole Smith