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Question about offense
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I've found the best way is to be completely up front and ask them 'is there a problem'. Some people are just hoping that someone will ask, where as others don't want to talk at the time but need to know that someone cares and is there should they need someone to talk to.
Also pray into it. Could be you have a gift of descernment.
Also pray into it. Could be you have a gift of descernment.
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If i am offending or upsetting my fellow-human, then, i need to seek forgiveness from God about it in prayer. If possible i need to set right things between me and him by trying to understand what could have offended him/her and sincerely apologizing to him/her. And if he/she got offended simply by misunderstanding me then God does not hold me responsible but would expect the offended person to understand me. I can still pray and hope that God make the situation better between me and the offended person. Because the Bible says "As much as possible with you be at peace with all human beings".
When a Fiery Preacher or a Prophetic Preacher gives a strong message from God, it would prick the hearts of either all or some of the congregation and convict them. During such times the congregation may feel offended by the Preacher/Pastor which is wrong. All of us have some amount of pride or ego in us which gets broken down with the passing years.
On the other hand, if i am offended by my fellow-human, then, i need to question myself "why i got offended?", "Was it due to egoism or pride? or Was it due to some other Godly reason?". If it was due to egoism or pride, then, i need to confess that before God in prayer and feel happy that God had humbled me so that the sin of pride may not be found in me.
When a Fiery Preacher or a Prophetic Preacher gives a strong message from God, it would prick the hearts of either all or some of the congregation and convict them. During such times the congregation may feel offended by the Preacher/Pastor which is wrong. All of us have some amount of pride or ego in us which gets broken down with the passing years.
On the other hand, if i am offended by my fellow-human, then, i need to question myself "why i got offended?", "Was it due to egoism or pride? or Was it due to some other Godly reason?". If it was due to egoism or pride, then, i need to confess that before God in prayer and feel happy that God had humbled me so that the sin of pride may not be found in me.
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heartnsoul
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Thanks to the OP for your thread. This was on my mind today and I'm glad the Spirit moved you to write about it. Praise God! 
That kind of "offensiveness" happened to me just the other day on this forum. A guy hijacked two threads, wrote an arrogant post regarding his opinion on how & what people should respond in a thread, and basically had a very obnoxious, forthright attitude towards his fellow brothers and sisters. It was very, very offensive. The threads have subsequently been closed by the moderators. I have confronted the brother through PM and asked him not to post stuff like that until his attitude changes. He got angrier and posted again. Other brothers and sisters who were offended just ignored him. It's very disturbing why someone would act so controlling and critical of others. All I can do is turn him over to God. If I sit here and dwell on it, my spirits will be dragged down. Fortunately, most people are friendly, loving and accepting of others. Thank God we have a strong group of Christians on this forum who love and support each other. That I am truly grateful for. The "few" who are antagonistic towards others will eventually leave with justified anger because people who cause strife and division are not welcomed in this forum. Prayer is powerful and I would suggest asking God to grant us peace and protection during those "offensive" situations. It's very tempting to react and argue with them but that will only bring us down to their level. So it's best to let go and let God deal with the "offensiveness" and may we make every effort to keep our own hearts pure for the glory of God. 
That kind of "offensiveness" happened to me just the other day on this forum. A guy hijacked two threads, wrote an arrogant post regarding his opinion on how & what people should respond in a thread, and basically had a very obnoxious, forthright attitude towards his fellow brothers and sisters. It was very, very offensive. The threads have subsequently been closed by the moderators. I have confronted the brother through PM and asked him not to post stuff like that until his attitude changes. He got angrier and posted again. Other brothers and sisters who were offended just ignored him. It's very disturbing why someone would act so controlling and critical of others. All I can do is turn him over to God. If I sit here and dwell on it, my spirits will be dragged down. Fortunately, most people are friendly, loving and accepting of others. Thank God we have a strong group of Christians on this forum who love and support each other. That I am truly grateful for. The "few" who are antagonistic towards others will eventually leave with justified anger because people who cause strife and division are not welcomed in this forum. Prayer is powerful and I would suggest asking God to grant us peace and protection during those "offensive" situations. It's very tempting to react and argue with them but that will only bring us down to their level. So it's best to let go and let God deal with the "offensiveness" and may we make every effort to keep our own hearts pure for the glory of God.
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Hi, I want to Thank evereyone who has responded to my question. There is some very good thinking points and stuff to take to heart. I guess my problem is, I apologized for causing any hurt or offended feelings. And the whole conversation was side stepped. The first time I thought it might have been over looked, but, then I asked a second time. And still got no comment what so ever. I'm not wanting a reaction. But, I feel that I can't improve or become what God wants of me, (especially in these situations) if my own brothers and sisters in christ are not willing to share these things with me.
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One of the Bible versions says in Isaiah 53, "He took our offences"; so I have learned to come to the understanding that if He has tyaken our offences, then what right do we have to get offended?newlyhere said:
Which raises another question; if we have to take offence, why don't we just choose to not be offended?
This may not be easy to begin with, but if you stick at it it can become part of your lifestyle.
Macca.
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Well I thought I had hurt or offended based on the actions this particular group of people. (church) I have apologized but still get no satisfactory answer. Still I can tell that what ever it was .. it bothers them. I have been trying to figure out which way would be best to proceed. If I should just figure -- yes something is off And perhaps they will come to me eventually. Or -- They may never say anything and in either case just hope for the best. -- I can't figure out what it could be that I done. Either way I care for them and am keeping the situation in prayer. Thank You 
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whatseekye
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newlyhere said:Well I thought I had hurt or offended based on the actions this particular group of people. (church) I have apologized but still get no satisfactory answer. Still I can tell that what ever it was .. it bothers them. I have been trying to figure out which way would be best to proceed. If I should just figure -- yes something is off And perhaps they will come to me eventually. Or -- They may never say anything and in either case just hope for the best. -- I can't figure out what it could be that I done. Either way I care for them and am keeping the situation in prayer. Thank You
It could be the immaturity of the other people. I would probably try to forgive them and move on, and focus on other people at church who are receptive to my company and help. Find a positive focus and you will do better. God bless you!
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heartnsoul
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Good advice!whatseekye said:
That's all anyone of us can do in a situation like that. I, myself, who experienced something like that just recently in this forum...I have decided the best thing to do is to either find another Christian forum that is more positive or to post only in the sections where the people are friendlier. Putting my focus on positive things and people have helped me cope with the negativity and destructiveness of some of the people in this forum. If we continually dwell on the negative things, our spirits will get dragged down with it. So, look up and look to God to brighten our days and to take care of the "offenses" in this world. God bless everyone.
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