question about deceiving man

[Lostlamba]

I v dated a guy my father age, and i still love him even now, i feel he is more caring to me than my real dad, cuz i lack family love maybe...

but actually when i involved him, he was still not divorced,and he was not a christian man, not sure now, he is a great talent artist though, and treat me honestly, and since he is the only man in my life treated me better than anyone, i guess i will never forget him, but i also can not make clear if he is deceiving man? someone says he is root of many deceiving, i m not sure....
but yes , he is the one leading me to nightclubs etc for fun, but not really doing other bad things. I just saw a lot bad things.he had a v bad marriage himself which arranged by his own parents, that is why he never back to home and did a lot crazy things outside, but he is sincere and v friendly to friends.

 

[rocklife]

if he decieves his wife, surely he decieves others.

a christian woman should have christian friends and marry christian man, continue in bible reading and prayers

I'm praying for you, God bless

 

[Elijah2]

Hi LL,

It's hard to give advice, because when we are alone and lonely we will accept any reasoning, when it comes down to feeling comfortable.

We have to turn our back on many things that look nice, friendly, and harmless.

I seen a few marriages of a couple with 20 years difference in age. Love is amazing thing, but deception is destroying.

Remember he has already deceived one wife, and he is an unbeliever. And HIS WORD speak on being "unequally yoked".

Scripture says that we need to be as wise as serpents and as gently as a dove. So be wise and gentle for yourself in your decision and choice.

Love in Christ

 

[russmoon]

Well most of us here are not affected by arranged marriages either.
What culture are we talking about?

It is for none of us to judge this man or your relationship. I would take it slow with this man. trust your heart and look at his behavior. And perhaps talk to him about this- what are his intentions?

 

[Sketcher]

You really need to drop this relationship. He's cheating on his wife, that means he could very well cheat on you someday. I've had a friend in your shoes, that relationship didn't last. I've got a cousin who just had a baby outside of wedlock. The "father" is not around and the alarms really started going off in my head when he brought his two kids from another relationship to a family gathering before this whole thing took place. If a man cheats on his woman to be with you, he will very likely cheat on you. And this is to say nothing of God's command against adultery.

 

[Dace]

well of course we're all speaking from very little knowledge of your situation but from what you describe this man is probably not suitable.

How strong are you in your faith? I think it can be very hard to stay close to God when your partner isn't Christian.
Before I became a Christian I dated a Christian woman and lived in sin with her for about a year before we split up, needless to say I had a massive negative impact on her Christian life. Though it wasn't all bad as she helped me find Jesus