question about deceiving man

[Lostlamba]

I said i v dated a guy my father age, and i still love him even now, i feel he is more caring to me than my real dad, cuz i lack family love maybe...

but actually when i involved him, he was still not divorced,and he was not a christian man, not sure now, he is a great talent artist though, and treat me honestly, and since he is the only man in my life treated me better than anyone, i guess i will never forget him, but i also can not make clear if he is deceiving man? someone says he is root of many deceiving, i m not sure....
but yes , he is the one leading me to nightclubs etc for fun, but not really doing other bad things. I just saw a lot bad things.he had a v bad marriage himself which arranged by his own parents, that is why he never back to home and did a lot crazy things outside, but he is sincere and v friendly to friends.

 

[JulySheMustFly]

This is said with alot of compassion even if it sounds harsh. There are a lot of things in your post that you need to address with God. But I'd put at the top you finding a self worth that stands alone not dependent on how any man loves you or treats you.

 

[Lostlamba]

yes sis i m with the slave spirit to human....

 

[desmalia]

This is said with alot of compassion even if it sounds harsh. There are a lot of things in your post that you need to address with God. But I'd put at the top you finding a self worth that stands alone not dependent on how any man loves you or treats you.

I have to agree.
If you are a Christian, you already know the answers to your questions. Do you want to serve God or this world? God loves you and values you, and really wants a close relationship with you. He will never hurt or abandon you. But when we sin, we separate ourselves from Him. Is this man helping you to grow closer to God?

 

[BigNorsk]

Lostlamba,

You dated a much older married man and claim that you loved him and that you still do? You are inserting your idea of what love is which is basically a selfish desire.

What you did was not love, you hurt him, you hurt his wife, you hurt yourself, you hurt God.

That is not love.

Love is not me, me, me, it is to put others first. Neither you nor that man showed any of it. You hurt him, he hurt you and you were both willing and able to go against God because for some reason, you thought you were going to get loved.

The real place to start is with the Bible, and studying it. From it you learn what true love is and is not and once you understand that, then you are equipped to deal with others, to truly love, and be loved. God already truly loves you, he died for you. Study his way, there is truth.

Marv

 

[Mrs. Enigma]

I have prayed for you. It sounds like you are in a hard situation.

 

[desmalia]

I would also like to add that this man has dishonoured his wife and his parents who chose that wife for him. If he was capable of that, it is most likely he will also dishonour you. Is this the kind of man you would want to be with? After all you have been through, I hope that you desire better for yourself.

As mentioned above, pray and read the Bible, and you will find what you are looking for.

 

[clycleader]

It makes me feel sad reading your original post. I sense that you do not love yourself. Obviously I don't know you, but the fact that you would intentionally put yourself in a degrading situation is why I feel that. A married man who does this is not a good person in my opinion. He is lying to his wife, family and to God.
Please talk w/ God about your situation and listen to what he tells you. I agree w/ Norske, read the Bible also.
I'm sorry for your pain. I'm praying for you sister

 

[Lostlamba]

Thanks sis, i m just so hurt.....i do not date him anymore, but inner i already so hurt since child, i do not know where a place i can cry.....i just not know

 

[4jacks]

i do not know where a place i can cry...

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