Question about counselling

[Grasshopper2000]

Hello,

I was emotionally, verbally and physically abused by my mum thoroughout the whole of my childhood and I was raped when I was 16. I have just plucked up the courage to see a counsellor about it as I know it is still affecting me. I have been to 5 counselling session so far and the last two sessions we have been talking about the relationship with my mum going forward, which seems to me like we have nearly finished then. He said that he won't deal with how the rape is affecting my marriage as we would need to speak to a sex thearapist about that (he has leant us a book in case that helps, so we don't need to pay for another counsellor). I have no idea what is suppose to happen at counselling and I'm wondering how long these things normally take? Does this seem a bit quick?

 

[Criada]

I don't think that there's a standard answer to that sweetie - counseling takes as long as is necessary to feel able to cope and to move on.
If your therapist is pushing you to go faster than you want to, then you need to tell him so, or to find a different counsellor who will let you take things at your own pace.
I don't know the system where you are... in England counseling on the NHS is usually in 6 week sessions, but that's a financial restraint, and not usually anywhere near long enough!
Do you feel that it has helped you? If there are issues you want to address, it sometimes helps to write them down before you go, and let the therapist know what your needs are.

Praying that you get the support you need for as long as you need it, sweetie.