Question 4 the ladies...

[nmi346]

there was this girl in one of my college classes that i really liked, but she had a boyfriend...i don't mess with girls who have a boyfriend so i never really pursued. this was over 2 years ago.

i saw her on monday morning, but could not remember who she was...by the time i remembered she was in her car.
Long story short: i caught her and talked to her for about 5 minutes. i had to go so i asked her for her number.

i tried to call her monday night around 9 and got voice mail. left message.

when do i try to call her again?

any advice? i have not dated in a while.

 

[Echoes Peak]

I wouldn't try to call her again until Wednesday. At that point, you would give her sufficient time to call you back without looking like you are "waiting by the phone" for her.

 

[neveragainindarkness]

She may be nervous about calling you! So please make the effort to call her back, just try to gauge when she will be there.

 

[Hewitt]

I'm a fan of giving her a little time. It just helps you avoid the desperate appearence.

 

[allieisme]

Well it all depends on when you call her by this.. In the message did you give her your number in it and tell her to call you? If you did that, then I wouldnt call until like Wednesday or Thursday, if you didnt leave your number, then I would call the next day

 

[Echoes Peak]

Well, did ya call her back?

 

[nmi346]

i called thursday morning...she was at work and could not talk. she asked if she could call me back. so far she has not. my best friend(a girl) said this girl is probably used to being pursued(she is absolutely beautiful) but i don't like being badgered so i don't badger.

 

[enslow]

It's also possible that she knows you're interested in a possible relationship, but she's not. If she can't think of a way to tell you (to just come out with it could sound rude) this might be her way of telling you she's not interested. I suspect that if she were really interested, she would have said something like "I'd really like to talk to you, but I'm at work. Can I call you tonight?"

If she if playing hard to get, ask yourself if you want to go out with some one who plays games.

And perhaps she still has a boyfriend.

I don't want to sound pessimistic, but you should consider those possibilities.

Enslow

 

[nmi346]

Women!


oh well, i still love em.

 

[starlettes03]

Just wait and pray about it! If it is God's will the relationship will happen.

 

[nmi346]

thanks 4 the words star

i know God will work everything out. i just didn't want to seem pushy by calling to much.

 

[en|gma]

Yeah...that's good. It can be very irritating to a girl if a guy constantly calls and she's not really interested in her. And also, psych urself to be ready to settle for friendship if that is all she can offer to you. Don't be too pushy. It is hard enough for girls to dump guys...and harder to dump stubbornly pursuing guys despite all hints and direct messages...harder to be nice if you are not gentleman enough to give space when asked to.

And if u have intentions already, be a man to mention it out front. If you are unsure, just say that all u want is to be friends with her at the moment and that u dont expect anything from her...if that's possible.