I was recently at the conservative christians forum and was under the impression that nonchristians go to hell. I was informed that not all christians believe this. Is this true? What are your thoughts on other things abortion homosexuality etc
It's true that not all Christians believe that nonChristians go to hell. Some don't believe they go at all. Some don't believe they go by default. Some don't believe anyone "goes to hell" because they don't believe hell is a space for one to relocate to.
There are other questions tied up in this, which you may already have thought of:
Is man mortal?
Is he mortal with an immortal genie on the inside?
Is he really immortal with a mortal casing (body)?
Is this life our one shot?
Is this life one of two shots, or many?
Are we here to get something right, and if so, what?
What is judgment?
What's the criteria?
What is moral and who decides?
Is there a difference between consequence and punishment?
Is there a difference between punishment and discipline?
And what do these answers say about God?
We could go on for a while -- but these are some of the questions that get answered in the background of people's view on hell.
I've never had an abortion, but I know people who have. By all accounts it's a horrific experience. I've never miscarried either, and know people who have, and I understand that's horrific too. Abortions, miscarriages, stillbirths, having to choose between mother's life and child's life -- these aren't experiences I'd seek out. I think with all the high-pitched public sphere rhetoric, people tend to overestimate others' willingness to abort, and also underestimate both the difficulty of choosing and the trauma that results whatever choice is made.
I am highly, highly sympathetic. Same goes for euthanasia cases. Even something as "simple" as deciding to turn a machine off can take a family weeks. Desperate situations, and my strongest inclination is to care.