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I have never told my children they need to be 'set up' first.
No doubt some people do that but stop generalizing, because you're guaranteed to be proven wrong.
I always thought the purity balls and purity rings were kind of weird, but I didn't have a sister growing up. Maybe it was devised as a way to impress purity on girls because of how they think. The instruction that I got growing up about fornication was that it is sin, and if I was going to fornicate with a girl, I would face a special kind of wrath from my dad. Of course, by the time that became relevant in my life, I had already been a follower of Jesus, and I knew that following Jesus meant sacrificing fun sins for walking in obedience, and saying no to fornication fit right in to that, so the threat wasn't the primary driver.Why does the promotion of Purity Culture, often symbolized as a kind of daughter-father prom where the daughter pledges her virginity to her father until married, only focus on girls, even within Christian communities? While it may not be said outright, being sexually active for boys/men is looked the other way. There is no son-mother dance where he pledges his virginity to his mom. Fornication is considered a sin, but it isn't addressed.
I then wonder, why would a girl want to not be sexually active waiting for a guy who isn't waiting for her to have sex at all?
If the girls are taught purity culture and boys aren't, who are the boys having sex with?
And what message does that teach boys as they become men?
Which to me, is completely fair. If a woman dislikes it when a man waits for marriage, that's disrespectful of his abstinence, and that abstinence for the Christian is a holy thing. She doesn't deserve a man who will do that. I have several reasons for my abstinence, but if I ever get married, it will be to a woman who will appreciate it.She discloses not having any sexual knowledge or experience, and adds that if that is what men expect of women, that is also what she expects of her husband:"I want a virgin for a husband."
This is the Internet. Someone always claims to be the "exception that disproves the rule."
I have several reasons for my abstinence, but if I ever get married, it will be to a woman who will appreciate it.
Why does the promotion of Purity Culture, often symbolized as a kind of daughter-father prom where the daughter pledges her virginity to her father until married, only focus on girls, even within Christian communities? While it may not be said outright, being sexually active for boys/men is looked the other way. There is no son-mother dance where he pledges his virginity to his mom. Fornication is considered a sin, but it isn't addressed.
I then wonder, why would a girl want to not be sexually active waiting for a guy who isn't waiting for her to have sex at all?
If the girls are taught purity culture and boys aren't, who are the boys having sex with?
And what message does that teach boys as they become men?
A father giving a daughter away is nothing more than a symbol of transferring the responsibility of the daughter to her husband, because, Biblically, that's how it's supposed to be.
As with anything, delivery is key. Is encouraging our children and teaching them what the Bible says about chastity and purity wrong? No. Is telling them that they are worthless if they lose their virginity before marriage? Yes.
I've seen some videos on "purity culture" as well and while the concern about making the children feel worthless is valid, a lot of videos I've seen are basically against any and all talk about remaining pure until marriage. These are from Christian content creators, younger content creators. I view this as nothing more than the enemy slowly winning this battle.
I have several reasons for my abstinence, but if I ever get married, it will be to a woman who will appreciate it.
I have never told my children they need to be 'set up' first.
No doubt some people do that but stop generalizing, because you're guaranteed to be proven wrong.
Purity culture has it's roots in theism, and theism has a history of having a double standard when it comes to men and womenWhy does the promotion of Purity Culture, often symbolized as a kind of daughter-father prom where the daughter pledges her virginity to her father until married, only focus on girls, even within Christian communities? While it may not be said outright, being sexually active for boys/men is looked the other way. There is no son-mother dance where he pledges his virginity to his mom. Fornication is considered a sin, but it isn't addressed.
I then wonder, why would a girl want to not be sexually active waiting for a guy who isn't waiting for her to have sex at all?
If the girls are taught purity culture and boys aren't, who are the boys having sex with?
And what message does that teach boys as they become men?
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