I was just thinking about this: How do you teach your children to be proud of themselves and of their accomplishments, while making sure they can distinguish between being "proud" in this way...versus prideful and arrogant? Any thoughts? (I'm specifically talking about teaching kids about humility).
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CF has always been a site that welcomes people from different backgrounds and beliefs to participate in discussion and even debate. That is the nature of its ministry. In view of recent events emotions are running very high. We need to remind people of some basic principles in debating on this site. We need to be civil when we express differences in opinion. No personal attacks. Avoid you, your statements. Don't characterize an entire political party with comparisons to Fascism or Communism or other extreme movements that committed atrocities. CF is not the place for broad brush or blanket statements about groups and political parties. Put the broad brushes and blankets away when you come to CF, better yet, put them in the incinerator. Debate had no place for them. We need to remember that people that commit acts of violence represent themselves or a small extreme faction.
Proud versus Prideful
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Isn't that hard? We talk about this all the time with our daughter. Like, we'll tell her that she's beautiful and next thing you know she's talking about how beautiful she looks and how she can't wait for all of her friends to tell her how beautiful she is!
I think this is going to take a little time. I want her to be confident, but not rude. Proud, but not arrogant. What I've noticed is that positive re-enforcement is absolutely necessary but that it's going to take some time for her to learn not to cross the line. So for us, it's been a work in progress. But I think she's starting to understand. Does that make sense?
I think this is going to take a little time. I want her to be confident, but not rude. Proud, but not arrogant. What I've noticed is that positive re-enforcement is absolutely necessary but that it's going to take some time for her to learn not to cross the line. So for us, it's been a work in progress. But I think she's starting to understand. Does that make sense?
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I think it's helpful to focus on encouraging them to be and do their best. Versus trying to get the best grade in the class (for example). In the first situation the focus is on the child's best. In the second situation the focus is on being better than other people in the class. Even in a competition setting the emphasis should be on doing their best, not merely trying to outsmart the other guy (though there is a time and place for strategic thinking). Encourage them to congratulate others no matter who wins and loses. Be a gracious winner by saying "Great job! You really challenged me!" or whatever.
In general it's good to help our children to understand that the world does not revolve around them. And that should start at a young age. Don't give into their every whim. It's OK to say no to them if what they want is excessive.
Teach humility by having them pitch in at home with chores. Encourage them to befriend a new kid in the neighborhood or at school. Teach etiquette. When it's someone's birthday encourage them to think of ways to make the day special for that person. Show respect yourself to those in authority and see that the kids do too. They can show humility and respect by being careful with other people's things. If something gets broken they should offer to replace the thing with their own money if possible.
The principles are endless. I think if kids grow up to be thankful for what they have in life and have respect for those around them they're off to a great start in life.
In general it's good to help our children to understand that the world does not revolve around them. And that should start at a young age. Don't give into their every whim. It's OK to say no to them if what they want is excessive.
Teach humility by having them pitch in at home with chores. Encourage them to befriend a new kid in the neighborhood or at school. Teach etiquette. When it's someone's birthday encourage them to think of ways to make the day special for that person. Show respect yourself to those in authority and see that the kids do too. They can show humility and respect by being careful with other people's things. If something gets broken they should offer to replace the thing with their own money if possible.
The principles are endless. I think if kids grow up to be thankful for what they have in life and have respect for those around them they're off to a great start in life.
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