I didnt hear many stories, I am the wrong person to ask there Solomon, My parents werent quite so open to talk about "the details". As you said, could get me slapped just asking
But honestly, I had always believed she conceived as a virgin (thats it) and I dont recall any bigger deal was made of intact hymen's and all of that. Not that I cared either, it was enough (and very simply) for me to believe she was not all this stuff I see on this board. But I understand why it might have come about, probrobly because of all this overthetop Mary stuff is going on (to me anyway).
My family was sorta like pew sitters though, you know the kind that stand at the right time, say what you say at the right time, sit, kneel, cross yourself, beyond that they were never into the scriptures, so there really wasnt theology talk, save with my aunt, who was a nun, but that come after she left the convent not before.
I wasnt much help was I?