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Guys, what about proposing makes you nervous? Is it just the act itself? Is it about messing it up? Or is it about being worried about the answer?
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Proposing
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peanutbutter12
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I don't think it's so much worry as it is adrenaline in most cases. For instance, when I asked my wife, everything was already set, I knew she was going to say yes, but it was getting the words to come out of my mouth without sounding like a dork that made it difficult.
CJ
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My husband didn't know he was supposed to get nervous. He was so excited he could hardly wait until we got inside the apartment so he just asked right there in the hallway 
He's so funny..... not the most romantic, but a very sweet and reliable man
He's so funny..... not the most romantic, but a very sweet and reliable man
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Inperfected
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Hey! She asked the guys... I just gave my thoughts, and I was well aware of what you said! (just i realise after typing "biggest" that ok he was right!) Personally that what i think gets a lot of guys, the fact of the forsaking ALL others, and sticking with through the thick and thin.
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sunshineray
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Honestly, I think if I guy is ready to be married he may be a little nervous to ask his woman to marry him, but I don't believe that his nerves will hold him back from asking. If a guy isn't ready to be married, I don't believe he'll ask. And it might not be healthy to pressure him either. If this is something that is heavy on your heart - that you're ready to be married, you need to speak to your boyfriend. If he isn't ready for marriage and this is very important for you, then perhaps you should quit waiting for him. I don't mean to be harsh... I just don't think it's healthy to wait for someone who may never be ready to marry you. I don't believe that a healthy relationship with marriage potential can exist if the two people involved are at different points in their life.
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you should not be going out with someone if there's no intention of marriage. i'm not saying that you have to marry them, but if there are not intentions of marrying them, then you're deceiving them. which means you're lying, which is wrong...
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stevezak11
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I'd be nervous about the act...one knee, ring in hand...it's not an everyday thing is it?
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Sometimes I think that guys think that women expect these grandiouse, "surprise" proposals... i.e., that it should occur in the perfect light to show off the rock, that her whole family should somehow just "show up" wherever they are, and that there should be some type of writing in the sky involved.
I know that, for example, there was a woman who came onto these forums, or maybe the women's discussion, and talked about how disappointing her proposal was. I stood up for her when everyone dogged her, simply because I figured she must have some other problems with her boyfriend (like he didn't pay attention to her, didn't really care what she had to say, etc.) if she was that upset about the proposal.
Anyway, my point is... I think they are bombarded by these cheesy movie clips and things that just don't normally happen in real life. Yes, you want to remember your proposal... "How did he ask you to marry him?", but I think that everyone needs to remember he's not just asking you to show up at the church. He's asking you to show up every day, for better or worse, in happy times and more commonly through the crap.
If it is important to the guy, and you have a solid relationship, there's really not much to be worried about.
I know that, for example, there was a woman who came onto these forums, or maybe the women's discussion, and talked about how disappointing her proposal was. I stood up for her when everyone dogged her, simply because I figured she must have some other problems with her boyfriend (like he didn't pay attention to her, didn't really care what she had to say, etc.) if she was that upset about the proposal.
Anyway, my point is... I think they are bombarded by these cheesy movie clips and things that just don't normally happen in real life. Yes, you want to remember your proposal... "How did he ask you to marry him?", but I think that everyone needs to remember he's not just asking you to show up at the church. He's asking you to show up every day, for better or worse, in happy times and more commonly through the crap.
If it is important to the guy, and you have a solid relationship, there's really not much to be worried about.
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