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I for one don't like the idea of a promise ring. I personally think giving someone a promise ring is about the same as giving someone an engagement ring. Some people look at it as a way of showing their devotion, but I personally see it as the "pre-engagement ring for those not ready to commit".

And time, as with an engagement ring, cannot be specified. I proposed to my girlfriend after 15 months of dating (to the day), had one friend who proposed after about 4 years, and another who proposed in about 5 months. It just all depends on how God is guiding you and your relationship.
 
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In west Michigan we have this strange tradition much like promise rings called "pearling." When you're serious andmoving towards engagement a pearl ring is given to the girl (or a pearl on a chain for around her neck)... *shrug* i don't really dig this one, but it could be sweet if it's truly used in the right way. I've seen really young (way too young to be thinking marriage, IMO) girls with pearls... just seems like a "going steady" fluff thing sometimes.
 
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I wear one, but thats just because of circumstances I am not able to have an engagement ring yet. I dont think there is anything wrong with it, and it shows to others that you are WAITING for marriage before you do anything.

May I ask what you mean GuruGreg about a promise ring being for those who are not ready to commit?? I think it shows even MORE how commited you are, that you are not going to mess around before marriage. Sometimes one cannot have an engagement ring at the time, but wants to show that they are serious, that is what I have done, and I am very committed.
 
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To me, a promise ring is about the same thing as "going steady" or "being pinned". It doesn't say much more than "I want to go out with you and only you". That's good, but that's what dating is to me anyway.

Along with that, it says "but I'm not quite ready to get married yet". So I don't see the point. If you're at a point where you're not prepared for engagement, then you shouldn't entertain the idea in any way shape or form. There's no point in "promising to promise to spend the rest of my life with you".

I don't know what your situation is Galadriel, but I would be interested in hearing about it and why you felt you needed to take the promise ring step instead of engagement.
 
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Personally there shouldn't be a time limit on your relationship. You'll know when you can start seeing that person has your future husband or wife. But remember a promise ring isn't something that should be necessary in a relationship. If you love one another that should be enough. You don't need a symbol of your love...your love you already have should be enough.

Personally I would never want to put another ring on my finger before i'm married. Cause there are only two rings meant to lie on that finger and thats your engagement ring and your wedding ring. If a guy ever wanted to get me something...i would rather a necklace with a ring around it. Cause then it'll rest near your heart. I duno thats just my opinion though
 
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I would wear it on my right hand
 
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As far as I know, there's "Engagement Ring" and "Marage Ring." The engagement ring is for when you finaly decide that this person your going out with is definately the person you are going to marry. All the time before that, you are still undecided.

I find any other type of ring as a waste of money and emotion. I mean, first it's a "Pre-Engagement Ring", next it'll be a "Simply a Girlfriend Ring"... eventualy, it'll be a ring for having just met!

How many rings can one finger carry???
 
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purple85 said:
well i bought a chastity ring for myself to signify that i want to remain pure. altho i dont always remember to wear it...it says 'true love' on it...
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I've heard of this before. I think it's a really good idea and really makes more sense than a promise ring. I think I'd get some funny looks if I told someone I had a chastity ring.*wink*
 
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