Promise Rings?

[squigglemonster]

I have a question, what do you guys think about Promise Rings? Promise Rings are a promise to be engaged, to get married. So you would give your boyfriend and he'd give you a ring (Promise Ring). Then years or months later, you'd get another ring (Engagement Ring), then you'd get a wedding ring.

What do you think of promise rings? Do you think there's no point? Would you ever want one? Do you have one?

IMO, they are pointless. I know someone who has one with her boyfirend and they look like wedding rings. I'd say if you're going to use a promise ring, just get engaged. Isn't that basically what it means? Why would you want to 'promise to be engaged to get married'? It just seems like over-kill to me. *shrug*

 

[modelchick]

well some people know they want to get married but its just not the right time for them. my brother and sister-in-law had a promis ring their senior year. And my dad gave my mom a promis ring not promising that they are going to get engaged any time soon but promising that he will always love her and they will always be together. I don't know...i think its kinda cute. Me and my b/f are getting promis rings if we are still together our first year of college and at that time we will have been together for 5 yrs.

 

[Briseis]

I think they are silly and unnecessary. A ring is to make it public, but if you arent engaged yet, why does everyone need to know? Its still just between you and your partner. You can promise yourselves to each other with words. And like you pointed out, you will be getting an engagement and wedding ring later, so its also a waste of money.

 

[peanutbutter12]

I think they are silly and unnecessary. A ring is to make it public, but if you arent engaged yet, why does everyone need to know? Its still just between you and your partner. You can promise yourselves to each other with words. And like you pointed out, you will be getting an engagement and wedding ring later, so its also a waste of money.

I agree. I think they are a silly fad. It's like being pretend engaged. I don't see a point, really.

CJ

 

[Inperfected]

I got a ring when me and my ex had been together a year.
We were actually technically engaged, just VERY few people actually knew... It was more of a promise of another ring than a promise ring, but also just a present.

He got it back when he ended it one month later.

My finace gave me an engagement ring 2 months into our dating relationship and he's not getting that one back cos we are married.

 

[RenaeNicole]

I always thought that promise rings were stupid. Like everyone here has said, they are a promise to promise to get married.

My fiance and I chose not to have on and just wait to have a ring until we were actually ready to tell people we are getting married, ready to actively plan our life, our wedding and ready to start thinking about pre-marital counseling.

 

[squigglemonster]

My friend refers to herself with her boyfriend's last name This on top of them both having promise rings (which look exactly like wedding rings and are worn on the same fingers as wedding rings), to me, takes away from the actual event.

When it comes for them to get married, they will have already experienced wearing "wedding rings", and she will have already experienced calling herself with his last name.

I know it's personal opinion ,but .. hmm.

 

[KJVisTruth]

I had a promise ring; I thought it was a wonderful gesture. It did not look like an engagement ring and wasnt a band. My ex husband (who gave me the ring) said he couldnt afford an engagement ring right away but he wanted to show his commitment. *shrug*

 

[adnilgnav]

I think Promise rings can be cool. I've never had one so I don't know what it brings. I'm sure it does one of 4 things. 1. It can be a reminder for yourself of the one you love. 2. It can also tell other's you are committed to someone. 3. It can be an empty promise. 4. It can be a waste of money.

I think it'll be cool to have one because than i don't have to tell people i have a someone special.

 

[shaslove]

I have a promise ring. I LOVE IT. It is worn on my right hand and to me it is an awesome thing...I want to give it to my daughter (when i have one) as a committment to stay pure ring! I do not think it is silly or a waste of time.

 

[alwayz_remember_Calvery]

I don't think they're for me. Some people might like them and think they're a good idea and are cute and whatever, but not me. I do have a ring from him, but that's because he LOVES hemitite (?) and he found the ring in Alaska on vacation. It wasn't bought as a promise that he would someday marry me, i already his word that he'd like to when the time is right (ie. after college).

Personally, i don't like them

 

[Inperfected]

The only promise ring (type of thing) that I was happy to recieve was the one before I went to Tanzania... I wanted a ring to be able to wear as an engagement ring there (and whilst I lost it, I did actually preach about it!) and there was no way I was taking my real one. I got my real one back the day i saw him again... 3 months later.

 

[DestinationLifeMagazine]

I actually just received a promise ring, but it was HIS choice (he is definately a romantic) And I wear it on my left hand actually; yes the opposite, but I do this because my purity ring is on my right and that is more important to me. But anyways, I wear my promise ring because he got it for me in love and to show me that I am in his future, and we know this because within the next 6 months or so we will officially be engaged and we know it (PRAISE GOD!) So yeah, this promise ring is definately for me, and it means a lot to me! I think they are great! As long as given with a loving heart...I know many couples that the guy gets her a promise ring but the relationship isn't based on the right things and ends like 3 months after, it is sad. If a promise ring is involved is should be serious!
God Bless!
Jen <3

 

[Quiddler]

I think depending on the motive behind it, it can either be a waste of time/money or a sweet romantic gesture. For example, if a couple is young (18-20ish) and are going away to different colleges in different states, a promise ring would be a sweet gesture, sort of "Remember that I'm yours and you're mine and I love you". Because I know that it can feel like you're all alone when you've not got your boyfriend/fiance living near you.

On the other hand, if it's treated more like an promise to be engaged, then it's kind of pointless, especially if you are old enough and serious enough to get engaged. Long engagements are fine.

Yeah. So it's kind of a fine line. I don't know if I made any sense here with what I said.

And Squiggle, what you've said about your friend makes it sound like what you said - overkill. Also, she shouldn't be referring to herself with his last name since they aren't married.

 

[allthatisgone]

Rings mean nothing. It's just keeping the promise that counts.

 

[allthatisgone]

Jumong gave her his mother's special ring, but look what happened! They couldnt be together anyway.

 

[Cecilia]

My boyfriend gave me a promise ring when I left to go to college (in another state). It was a promise to be friends above all and to remind both of us of our most serious intention. To us, it is a symbol of our courtship meaning that I am his and he is mine. Honestly, the world may think what it wants but it was our decision and it is very important to us.

 

[Hediru]

I think that, like many people have said before me, that it is a sweet gesture if you are not going to be getting engaged for a long time (such as college students waiting until they finish). But, I also don't think that they should be fancy or expensive. You can get really pretty costume jewelry that looks real but isn't. It is still romantic and pretty, and the guy has time to save up for the real thing!

 

[miss_klara]

My boyfriend and I have actually just gotten rings together. We got them for the intention of purity, but they are also significant parts of our relationship, seeing as we wear the rings as a reminder to remain pure with each other, for each other (obviously for God too!!). I paid a little towards mine, but then he paid the rest off as a surprise and gave it to me over dinner. I guess it's kind of like a promise ring, but we call them our purity rings....

 

[Paddington]

Personal choice. I wouldn't want one. Although it's sweet to give one if you can't get engaged for a long time, a lot my change over that time and people shouldn't feel tied down just because of a ring they gave years ago.