My husband and I are at our wits' end with our 19 year old son. We have spent the last several years and countless dollars trying to get him help. He is medicated for ADHD and also has issues with anxiety. We have been compassionate with him as much as possible, but he will not work with us. He has been hospitalized at 14 for his issues. He acted out in school and finally he stole from a store here, and went before a judge. His only goal in life is the video games it seems. Last Fall, he attended college for one semester. Finally, we thought things were going well. He told us that his anxiety was acting up again, and he could no longer ride his bike to the campus.
Because he was not a full time student, our insurance stopped carrying him. We spoke to him over the holidays about getting in to therapy, and taking it seriously this time. The next day, he asked my husband to take him to my mother's house. We thought (hoped) he would finally get the help he needed to get his life in order, but no dice. He calls now, and wants to come back and visit with us. Honestly, I don't want him anywhere near me or his younger siblings. I am past tired of his manipulation. He starts to appear better for a while than it's back to his usual laziness and life of video game playing. I have had my own issues with anxiety, so I thought getting him help and medication would have been what he needed. But, he really doesn't want either. He says the meds don't work because he sometimes still has issues with his panic. However, he refuses to be serious about therapy to deal with his issues. My son is very bright and has an answer for everything. I highly resent him.
My husband is fearful that he will harm himself if we tell him we want n
othing to do with him. I have decided that if he must do that, so be it. I don't want him dead, but I want off of this merry-go-round. My mother will not support us. We give her money and other things for his upkeep. It will not matter if we don't give her the money because she says she cannot or will not put him out on the street. With no back up from her, we are fearful that my son can continue these mind games with us for the next ten years. If my son knew that he had to get help or live on the street; he would do better. Does anyone else have any experience in this area with a wayward child? We really could use some advice.
Because he was not a full time student, our insurance stopped carrying him. We spoke to him over the holidays about getting in to therapy, and taking it seriously this time. The next day, he asked my husband to take him to my mother's house. We thought (hoped) he would finally get the help he needed to get his life in order, but no dice. He calls now, and wants to come back and visit with us. Honestly, I don't want him anywhere near me or his younger siblings. I am past tired of his manipulation. He starts to appear better for a while than it's back to his usual laziness and life of video game playing. I have had my own issues with anxiety, so I thought getting him help and medication would have been what he needed. But, he really doesn't want either. He says the meds don't work because he sometimes still has issues with his panic. However, he refuses to be serious about therapy to deal with his issues. My son is very bright and has an answer for everything. I highly resent him.
My husband is fearful that he will harm himself if we tell him we want n
othing to do with him. I have decided that if he must do that, so be it. I don't want him dead, but I want off of this merry-go-round. My mother will not support us. We give her money and other things for his upkeep. It will not matter if we don't give her the money because she says she cannot or will not put him out on the street. With no back up from her, we are fearful that my son can continue these mind games with us for the next ten years. If my son knew that he had to get help or live on the street; he would do better. Does anyone else have any experience in this area with a wayward child? We really could use some advice.
