Problems friendship

[Taylor43]

Sorry to bother you all but i am at wits end in one of my friendships. We used to get along but lately everytime i phone her she ends up telling me what I am doing wrong and i need to correct it. Some ways she has been helpful. Like today a good friend in church passed away last month i told her i am doing better. She told me to forget about my friend and that i make it a issue. Maybe i do because i am so sensitive and i care deeply for people.

I do have a eating disorder right now it is a issue she told me it was up to me to change and if i do not succeed then i am not helping myself. I am doing the best i can I am in counseling, seeing a pyschiatrist and i am being honest but this week is hard because i truly let them know my eating habits. I do have ibs This friend she told me i am not following the meal plan if i have a burger. Sometimes my lifestyle has be going to Wendy's or a night out for pizza not every day but once a week.

Also she thinks i am breaking Gods commandment by not honouring my Dad. For the past 2 years he has not treated me nice. I have tried to make things workout everytime i get so sadnow i am showing. My mom passed away when i was 15 Grandpa moved in when i was 21 he started to date his new wife. I am not on drugs our partying, I am at stay at home girl. He has done nothing but is negative in what i do. When Grandpa talks to him he says it is my fault and that i am not happy with him remarrying. Thats not true. I am happy he got re married. I am just un happy how he treats me and Grandpa. I grew up in a very abusive home my Mom. My friend says i am being un realistic having a time out with my Dad that he needs to be able to come visit me. I would if i could dust and vacume the house every day. My house is clean but not like martha stewarts. Sirry for going on and on

This friend i have tried to cut it off and lacking phones calls, but when i do she says i am isolating. I used to but i am getting out more i have met some new people in my church got into a good biblestudy and i got a good support system. Thanks for listening
Love
Taylor

 

[UnitynLove]

As God to speak to your heart as in what to do in your situation.

 

[Gods4me]

Well from the sound of your friend she’s not sounding supportive. We all have friends who are good ad advice and others it’s not their strong point. She obviously doesn’t understand how u feel as it’s your feelings and no one else can understand them completely. Having had a friend who gave me some hurtful advice while I was going through a rough patch I can relate to what u is saying.
As for your friend say u have broke a commandment. If one person who can stand up and say they have never broke one of the commandments who is not Jesus then I’m a monkey’s uncle.
She will have broken a few the same as the rest of us.
Your father getting re marred had got to be hard for you. It sounds like you have had it really hard. Now nothing is going to change the fact they are married and how much they love each other is their business. U just remember, you are still his daughter and even though he had done something you dislike it is not going to change so that one u mite just have to cut you losses.
Your friend must think she is being supportive and even though some of it is not help. It is in your best interest to get your self back on track. Don’t be put of by what others say...

Be BOLD be STRONG for the lord YOUR god is with YOU
I AM not afraid I am not dismayed
For I am walking in FAITH AND VICTORY
FOR THE LORD YOUR GOD IS WITH YOU!!!!

 

[jsimms615]

Sorry to bother you all but i am at wits end in one of my friendships. We used to get along but lately everytime i phone her she ends up telling me what I am doing wrong and i need to correct it. Some ways she has been helpful. Like today a good friend in church passed away last month i told her i am doing better. She told me to forget about my friend and that i make it a issue. Maybe i do because i am so sensitive and i care deeply for people.

I do have a eating disorder right now it is a issue she told me it was up to me to change and if i do not succeed then i am not helping myself. I am doing the best i can I am in counseling, seeing a pyschiatrist and i am being honest but this week is hard because i truly let them know my eating habits. I do have ibs This friend she told me i am not following the meal plan if i have a burger. Sometimes my lifestyle has be going to Wendy's or a night out for pizza not every day but once a week.

Also she thinks i am breaking Gods commandment by not honouring my Dad. For the past 2 years he has not treated me nice. I have tried to make things workout everytime i get so sadnow i am showing. My mom passed away when i was 15 Grandpa moved in when i was 21 he started to date his new wife. I am not on drugs our partying, I am at stay at home girl. He has done nothing but is negative in what i do. When Grandpa talks to him he says it is my fault and that i am not happy with him remarrying. Thats not true. I am happy he got re married. I am just un happy how he treats me and Grandpa. I grew up in a very abusive home my Mom. My friend says i am being un realistic having a time out with my Dad that he needs to be able to come visit me. I would if i could dust and vacume the house every day. My house is clean but not like martha stewarts. Sirry for going on and on

This friend i have tried to cut it off and lacking phones calls, but when i do she says i am isolating. I used to but i am getting out more i have met some new people in my church got into a good biblestudy and i got a good support system. Thanks for listening
Love
Taylor

It kinda makes you wonder from what you said if there are problems in your friends life that your unaware of. I don't know sometimes a sudden change in mood can be a grief issue also. Like maybe she is grieving over some kind of loss or perceived loss.
You can only do so much to get people to like you though. Just try to be as understanding as you can and don't take it personally if she doesn't return the favor.
J