I am new to this forum and am glad to have found it. I am a firm believer that it is one thing to talk about the walk and another to walk the talk. I am trying to the best of my abilities to practice in my daily life what I am learning. I believe that I have been experiencing great life hardships so that in the end I seek GOD once and for all. That it is so I become the kind of person who lives the word of Jesus all the time rather than when I want to or find it convenient. I am concerned that my wifes behavior is impacting out ability to have greater prosperity.
With that in mind to follow with my dilemma.
I have been married for 13 years and have 3 children ages 7 to 12. My wife on a regular basis makes commitments to me and other and breaks them. We have discussions about our children and household, from which the material facts are always changing. In some cases they are small things such as "I will be home at 6:00 or call" only to have her roll in at 9:00 without a call. Some seem more serious to me such as "I need to borrow $250.00 to pay the utilities" to find out that she did not pay the bills and can't payback the money. In all cases I find out by someone else or by accident in our conversations, she does not come to me as the events change.
I am so frustrated and feel lied too on a regular basis and my trust in her is fading.
I can also see this friction as a lesson for me, so that I relax and let go of my way of seeing things which are much more exacting and accountable.
The source of her problems is a business she is trying to get started. In some cases she anticipates what others will do and then act accordingly such as "Expecting a person to pay her for work done and therefore she will write a check for groceries. Only to have the people not pay her and therefore she has a bad check out, which she borrows the money to cover."
Sorry if this isn't really clear, she dropped another one of these little gems in my lap, for which I sought to find some online help.
What do I do?
Thanks
Don
With that in mind to follow with my dilemma.
I have been married for 13 years and have 3 children ages 7 to 12. My wife on a regular basis makes commitments to me and other and breaks them. We have discussions about our children and household, from which the material facts are always changing. In some cases they are small things such as "I will be home at 6:00 or call" only to have her roll in at 9:00 without a call. Some seem more serious to me such as "I need to borrow $250.00 to pay the utilities" to find out that she did not pay the bills and can't payback the money. In all cases I find out by someone else or by accident in our conversations, she does not come to me as the events change.
I am so frustrated and feel lied too on a regular basis and my trust in her is fading.
I can also see this friction as a lesson for me, so that I relax and let go of my way of seeing things which are much more exacting and accountable.
The source of her problems is a business she is trying to get started. In some cases she anticipates what others will do and then act accordingly such as "Expecting a person to pay her for work done and therefore she will write a check for groceries. Only to have the people not pay her and therefore she has a bad check out, which she borrows the money to cover."
Sorry if this isn't really clear, she dropped another one of these little gems in my lap, for which I sought to find some online help.
What do I do?
Thanks
Don