- Feb 25, 2003
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this may sound dumb b/c I'm 32 but I have a prob. w/ my dad and stepmom. After a couple years of browbeating me to death to get married (which I did- not b/c of them but b/c we loved each other and wanted to make things right in God's eyes) I still seem not to be able to do anything to make them happy. They didn't even come to the wedding. I had asked dad to give me away. I gave them 3 months to make plans to get here from Fl. but about a month be4 the wedding they said they couldn't find tics. cheap enough. Now my dad is pretty well off so I couldn't accept this as an excuse but anyway... My now hubby even went online and found tics. $200. cheaper than what they said they found them for. So this added to my hurt feelings. I just felt like I wasn't important enough for them to show. Actually noone from my fmaily even bothered to show which has created lots of hard feelings there. Now, I have 2 children, 11 and 3 which are my all and I am extremely protective of their feelings. I have heard only once from my dad since the wedding which has been 9 months now. His email said that he hadn't felt inclined to write to me because I didn't deserve a response to my email of letting him know how hurt I was over him not coming. Now honestly I was as nice as I could be in letting him know I was hurt but felt I had to get those bad feelings off my chest. Well, not only has he ignored me but he doesn't even acknowledge my kids either. Now they are totally innoccent in all this. It's not their fault that this bug fight is going on but my oldest son had a birthday last week and they won't even acknowledge that. Actually I think he hasn't gotten a b- day card from them in 2 years now. It upsets him b/c he doesn't understand why they are mad b/c he has even seen our emails to one another and understands why I was hurt and all. My question is how do you know when your prayers are being hindered? I know you are not supposed to harbor bad feeligns towards others and are to let these people know how they've hurt you so you can move on but when the other person is so unwilling to listen to you, what do you do? I have so many prayer requests and don't want my prayers to be hindered b/c of this situation over which I feel I have no control! Any help?! Oh, see also, about 2 1/2 yrs ago when I rededicated my life to God, this is when all the major probs began. Now dad says that he doesn't want to discuss anything pertaining to my beliefs but yet professes to be a christian himself. I don't feel I should have to defend my faith adn religion is a big part of my life so why can't I praise God if I want?