Because I'm the farthest thing possible from a violent man... but if someone killed my child for such a self-centered superficial reason as not wanting to gain weight temporarily...
If you think that's the reason women get abortions you are WAY off. How about women who cannot afford another child? There are women who literally cannot afford to be pregnant; the rest of the family would end up in poverty(some of them may actually be thinking about the welfare of their other children!). Some of them have medical conditions that would put them in danger if they carry a pregnancy to term. Others choose abortion because they will be kicked out of their house of worse if people find out she was pregnant (since "my dad will kill me" isn't just a figure of speech..)
Pregnancy does a lot more than make women gain weight. A pregnancy puts a big strain on every organ in a woman's body. It changes how much her heart works, her breathing, even her blood volume! A pregnancy is can be very rough. It's not nearly as easy as you might think it is.
There are many reasons that women have abortions, and not all of them are selfish either. The comment about not wanting gain weight suggests that you don't really know what goes into the decision of whether or not to carry a pregnancy. Every situation is different. Why do you ask me if I have ever looked at it from you side, when you haven't fully looked at it from ours?
And you say "Many men never even see their children." as though that were a good thing. Can you IMAGINE not even KNOWING if you have a child?
No, I don't think it's a good thing. I was saying that there are a lot of deadbeat 'dads' who just walk off. I think that's horrible. However, I don't have a lot of simply for most men who don't know if they have children or not. In the majority(I realize not all) cases, that situation could be easily avoided if people would think first.Make sure you know a woman fairly well before you sleep with her! Yes, I realize that this sometimes happens to decent men who try to do everything right, and it's not their fault at all, such as cases where a wife or girlfriend simply walks out. However, in the majority of cases, if a man doesn't know whether he has kids, it's at least partly his fault for not being more careful.
Assuming you're a decent parent, if someone showed up on your doorstep one day and just took your kids to a boarding school where you would never see them again... and all it cost you was 1/3 of your paycheck for the next 18 years... would you really be happy about that?
No, not at all. I'm not a parent yet, but one day I hope to be. I'm sorry that that situation happened with your family. However, a lot of men are not as good as your father. But your family's case cannot be used to authorize every man in America to have total control over a woman's medical decision.
It may seem unfair that you don't have a say in abortion, but that's the way it is. You can't make a medical decision for a competent adult, and I'm personally very glad about that. If your not the one directly affected by having the procedure (ie the patient), you should have no say about the treatment.
If you have an elective abortion, it should come with a complete hysterectomy
Do you know what a 'complete hysterectomy' is?It's removal of the uterus, the cervix, and sometimes the fallopian tubes and the ovaries. It's major surgery with a lot of complications. It can cause major hormonal imbalances, and can even women enter menopause way too early if the ovaries are affected. No 20 year old should be menopausal! Doctors do not do hysterectomies unless they have to. They usually try everything else first, and only do a hysterectomy if it's necessary to save the woman. It's not minor, routine surgery. Surgical abortion is an outpatient, quick procedure (usually only 5 minutes or so is spent on the actual procedure) . Hysterectomies are not. Doing a hysterectomy for no reason would be so dangerous that there would be no way to justify it. Besides, just because a woman has an abortion, it doesn't mean that she never wants kids. Many women who have had abortions have gone on to have families. I'm just thankful that a law like that doesn't have even a slight chance of making it.